Post # 1
These questions are pretty good.
Some that I thought were funny were:
1.Are you willing to change a toilet roll?
2. Do you have a criminal background?
3. Do you have any children?
LOL Not judging #2 and #3 but you would expect these to come out during dating before engagement. lol
Some of the other ones seem pretty good.
Post # 3
We did a list similar with our pre-marriage counsellor and some of the questions were…
-do you have kids?
-what is your medical background?
If you don’t know that about your future spouse…I feel like there’s more problems there!
Post # 4
LOL Even though I laughed about the criminal background, I could see how that might not be presented. If it were me I’d try to squeee it in jokingly like “When I was younger we were messing around”…lol But what if it is something serious…how do you squeeze that in? Asking may not be bad because if you haven’t asked he/she hasn’t lied. I wouldn’t think to ask a woman if she has ever been in jail. lol
On the kids thing…it’s no big deal. I just think it should be mentioned before proposing and not “Now that you mention it, Yes…I have 5 kids.” lol
Post # 5
Medical history, yes! I once dated a man who’s family had all sorts of issues… they were a great, caring family, but it did actually play a part in our split. Between his father, mother, himself, his son, and his daughter… they all had some sort of issue (heart attack and high blood pressure, MS, diabetes, muscular distrophy, and a slight mental illness and paranoia condition in no particular order) and I just could not see wanting to give my “future children” any higher risk, ya know? Ultimately, we split because of the crap his ex-wife pulled, we grew apart, etc… but, the medical history definitely played in my mind like a broken record.
Surprisingly, the toilet roll hits home for me, too! My now BF once thought I could use kleenex because that’s what he’d been using since he ran out of TP the previous week. UM, NO. Hahaha, needless to say… he was back from the store in less than 20 minutes and put rolls on the dispensers in both bathrooms and extra under the sink. TP has always been stocked since. 😉
In addition, I actually asked him if he knew what his credit score was. I’ve always been very financially savvy and wanted to make sure I wasn’t gonna have collectors come after me. I didn’t actually ask him the score, just where he stood. He knew immediately and spouted off the number and that impressed me.
I agree with the pp, though… this stuff should be discussed way before marriage counseling!
Post # 6
Haha … i brought up some of the questions with SO and he was like .. what women’s mag did these come out of ? We know this stuff about each other … and altho he doesn’t .. he has said he will change his behavior and change some TP rolls. LOL