Post # 1
Hi all, so I have two bridesmaids and a Jr MOH, and my FI has two bridesmaids as well (gay! lol).
My question is, I have a bridesmaid who isn’t comfortable in dresses… she never wears them and really doesn’t want to wear one for the wedding. So I gave her the option of wearing either the dress or a nice pants/shirt combo. Here’s where you come in.
My FI will be all in a white suit, white shoes. Also, all my other BM’s will be in blue dresses, and are getting seashell bouquets, and FI is getting a seashell boutenniere (along with my parents). Our wedding colors are different shades of blue.
So, my question is, should I have this errant BM wear white pants with a blue top, or khaki pants with a blue top? What would look best, considering the only other person in a pantsuit up there will be in white? And ALSO… should I make her a bouquet to carry, or would that not look right with the pantsuit? Would a boutennierre be better? Please vote, and if you have further comments I’d love to hear them!
Post # 3
okay so I can’t seem to find a picture of what I am thinking… but I am thinking like a light tan pant (something wide leg and very femanine) with a light blue or aqua top,(tucked in and maybe with some ruffles!) and white shoes. and I would DEFFINATELY have her carry a bouquet!
ps if this is totally off style with her (or the rest of the wedding) i understand I am kinda just taking a shot in the dark!maybe you could post some of what the other girls are wearing so we know what we are matching her with!
Post # 4
Hi, thanks for the reply! I gave my BM’s the choice of dress style, but a set color. This is what one of them has picked out:
Do you say the part about having her have a bouquet because of the possibility of hurt feelings if she didn’t, or because you think it might look better..? Thankes again for the advice!
Post # 5
tan slacks and a silk blue top tucked in with the seashell bouquet
Post # 6
I would have her in something like this resort wear outfit.
This example is from http://www.orvis.com
I think you and your FI should be the only ones in white and tan doesn’t enter into your scheme anywhere else.
Post # 7
Are your FI’s bridesmaids wearing bouts or carrying bouquets?
I think your bridesmaid in pants should skip the white and fit in as best as possible with the colors of the other birdesmaids’ dresses. Also, if everyone else up there will have bouquets, then give her a bouquet too. I don’t think it will look weird.
Post # 8
what about somethign like this, but in Blue
Post # 9
Tannish colored Linen Wide Legged Khakis…A blue top that matches whatever color blue your other maids are wearing and Brown shoes would look very good. A fitted top with some sort of Formal/girlish attribute to it like ruffles or bows would look very pretty IMO. If you really want to do the white shoes, I would try and throw in an additional accessory(belt, or neckscarf perhaps Definately patterned using the colors Blue and white to bring the whole look together…i love polka dotss personally). Im not sure where you live but alot of the white shoes Ive seen in my area come off cheesy. I would avoid the white pants cuz your FI is wearing white. If she is a Bridesmaid Id defiantely give her a bouquet not a boutineer. Im not very good with finding pictures of things but this is what im seeing in my head so I hope it helps!
Post # 10
I think others have good suggestions about the clothes. When it comes to the flowers though, I think you ask her what she’d be more comfortable with. If you let her choose, she’s probably really appreciate it!
Post # 11
I say khaki, because IMO you should be the only one wearing a lot of white. Also a bouquet, since she’s a BM. She’s already choosing to not be like the other BMs and wear a pant suit, it’s not going to kill her to carry a bouquet. But that’s just me 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks Bees!!! Everyone else (including my FI’s BM’s) are going to have a shell bouquet, and your comments have helped me see that I should have her have one too. So she definitely will.
I’m still a little lost on clothes, but I do like the wide-legged tanish pant suggesting coupled with a blue shirt… I’m just not sure how these will look on her? She’s a heavier girl, and not very girly either. LOL it’s hard to pick out clothes for your friends!
Post # 13
@Ayslinn87: Ask her what she thinks about the flared pant, and based on her experience if it’s something that would look good on her. Otherwise pretty much any darkish-colored dress pant will look great.
Post # 14
I’m going to say khaki isn’t in your scheme, so no.
But a lot of other bees say no white. That’s up to you.
I do like the all blue pants and shirt idea.
And either a bout or bouquet will work.