Post # 1
Okay so here’s a scenario for you. I just want to know how others would react.
You’ve been with a guy for awhile, over a year. Suddenly, you find out he cheated on you. You’re hurt and want revenge. Regardless of if you would actually go through with it, would one of your thoughts be to cheat on him as well? Even if you would NEVER do it?
Edit: Maybe revenge isn’t the best word. I just want to know if it would be a passing thought because he hurt you. Please refrain from “I would break it off” answers.
Post # 3
If I were to think of getting revenge and cheating, I’d just leave him and be done with it instead. No offense, but only a bitch would give revenge. Leave and move on. No sense in getting hurt or hurting others more with revenge.
Post # 4
I might think about cheating because I would feel like my confidence had just taken a major hit, but I wouldn’t want to do it to get revenge. No matter what my husband does, I never want to hurt him. I feel disappointment in him, angry with him, hurt by him, and those feelings and my expression of them are enough to show him how much he betrayed me without resorting to betraying him back.
Post # 5
@littlefe: That’s a normal reaction for revenge. lol…. But it doesn’t help, just mskes the situation worse. The best thing you can do is break up or separateuntil you can trust him again. If he truly loves you and its was a one time thing. But it shouldn’t have ever happened in the first place. Sorry to hear that.
Post # 6
I think it would be time to move on….I wouldn’t cheat just to get revenge.
Post # 7
I would probably break it off.
Post # 8
@littlefe: no I wouldn’t get revenge by cheating – that is immature and passive agressive. 2 wrongs don’t make a right. I’d leave him personally but if I was going to stay and try to work through it, I wouldn’t cheat for revenge. Anyone that would think of doing that clearly doesn’t want to work through it and should just leave.
Post # 9
Nope, never. I’d never think of cheating just to get “revenge” or get even.
Because, if you two decide to work it out, then you’ve got that on your shoulders, instead of being innocent.
Post # 10
I found out an ex was cheating on me, and dumped him immediately. But one of my thoughts was “That FUCKER! I could have cheated on him so many times, and I never did!”
Post # 11
hmmm it might cross my mind, an eye for an eye kind of thing. But we all know 2 wrongs don’t make a right. I think it would run through my mind though!
Post # 12
@mepayne: “Because, if you two decide to work it out, then you’ve got that on your shoulders, instead of being innocent.”
Post # 13
@Lily_of_the_valley: Yep, again, EXACTLY. It crosses your mind, but you know it won’t help anything. It crossed my mind, but I never acted on it. So thanks to those of you who didn’t call me a bitch or immature. Just wanted some opinions without people getting mean about it. Not to mention I in no way put all the details up here. I think it crossing your mind for a whole second is natural because your heart is broken. Anything beyond that doesn’t help anything.
Post # 14
I would never cheat, BUT would it be acceptable for you if I could I still use the “break it off” line if I were talking about his manhood? Because that is how I would want to handle the situation.
Post # 15
@megz06: Ha, I think that’s acceptable to want to. Doesn’t mean you would just because you think about it because you’re seriously hurt, and that’s my point in all of this 🙂
Post # 16
I think it’s normal to be angry and for some people after anger comes wanting to hit back. Thinking isn’t doing so as long as you don’t plan on doing it then think away.