Post # 1
Is anyone planning a wedding in a short period of time? What’s it like?
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I aren’t engaged yet, but we’ve set a date and location. October 2, 2010. When we first started talking about getting married last year, we knew we wanted to get married this year. He’s from New Zealand so his family has a long way to come for the wedding. And, his mom and sister are teachers which means they only have 2-2 week periods that they can make it up here. They can come over Christmas too, but it’s SUPER expensive so we decided to do one of those two week periods.
Because of our limited selection, I found a place and set a date even though we’re not engaged just to make sure we could get married at the right time (for them). I assume the engagement will happen soon (he’s waiting on the custom ring to show up) but I refuse to plan anymore until it’s official. It takes the fun out of it a bit to be planning and not able to tell anyone about it.:)
Anyway, now I’m stressing about running out of time. We still have 8 months so I think I’m ok. Keeping my fingers crossed anyway!
Post # 3
I am in the boat with ya!
We’ve set a date for October 16th but no ring yet.
I have been “silently” planning and I’ve also started a notebook. Also, the Bee has definitely helped!! 🙂 It is a great outlet with wonderful women to share ideas, opinions, etc.
I, too do not want to really talk about it with our families until it is official even though they already know. It is just weird to me.
You’ll be fine, just start thinking about generalities… the look and feel.. things like that. You can get into specifics later.
Post # 4
Great advice gocubbies! I’m so glad I discoverd the Bee. It allows me to talk to people about the wedding without having to sound like I’m nagging my Boyfriend or Best Friend. I don’t want him to feel pressured into asking me, you know?
So, you’ve set a date…got a place yet?
Post # 5
I totally feel the same way!! I just posted about this the other day if you want to read it.
Waiting and having a hard time keeping my mouth shut…
Yes we do have a place picked, it was such a random thing, really. I posted an ad on Craigslist. We were 100% set on having the ceremony and reception in one location and in a barn. Not much flexibility 🙂 We were originally going to try to work something out with a family farm/barn.
I received a response about a refurbished barn in a county park 35 minutes away. It was perfect and just $350 for the whole day.
We really lucked out. However, we had to base our wedding date around the when it was available (Aug 21 or Oct 16), so that was the only downside.
Have you started looking yet?
Post # 6
You can totally plan your wedding in less than a year. I got engaged last November, but didn’t start planning until January 2009. Wedding was in early September 2009. Once I had the dress ordered and our venue booked, things just sort of fell into place.
Post # 7
@mhirni: We have the venue booked! Thank God. I really feel like I can’t start looking for a dress until we’re actually engaged. Just a personal thing I think. 🙂 Thanks for letting me know it’s possible! Whew!
@GoCubbies: That venue sounds awesome!! Don’t you love when things fall into place like that. We chose a venue pretty close to our house, about 10 minutes away. We REALLY wanted one particular location, but they have an end time of 9pm which wan’t ok so we decided to get married there and have the reception elsewhere. Both beautiful!
I live in Colorado, but I’m originally from the Chicago burbs (north shore) so I’m interested to know where the barn is, if you don’t mind. I’m just curious!
Post # 9
We will have had nine months to plan, which was plenty of time for all but the most popular venues and caterers (and happily they were all out of reach pricewise anyway!) So I’d guess you’re fine. Somebody told me that the planning will take as long as you have—so you might as well let it consume less of your life!
One big plus to a shorter planning period, too, is that venues and caterers with availability may be anxious to fill it and are a little more open to working with your budget and such….at least that’s what we’ve found the closer the date gets! (For our June wedding, we have our venue and photographer, but that’s about it—on the verge of choosing the caterer and dress.)
Post # 10
A friend of mine got engaged December 5, 2009 and her wedding is Februray 27, 2010, and they did not planning ahead of time.
It’s totally possibly, but can be a little stressful from what I’ve seen.
Post # 11
I’m actually waiting differently–waiting for Fiance to figure out where we’ll be for his grad school! We took the plunge and set a date, but it feels so awkward to plan without knowing where we’ll be living or if I have a job.. sigh! So I feel you!
Also, we just set our date officially… two weeks ago. Our wedding is in six and a half months. Honestly, all but one of the vendors we booked for our original date (May 15) was available, but that was just lucky! Still, I know you can do it in a quick turnaround time. Good luck!
Post # 12
@LaborOfLove: Wow! That sounds incredibly tricky. Does he at least have the Grad School locations narrowed down? Yikes! That sounds scary. Good luck! And good for you for staying so calm and supportive! 🙂
Post # 13
I planned my wedding in about 5 months. We had a long engagement looked like no end in sight. On an off chance we looked at venues to just get prices. Then I was like “Fuck this… We are never going to afford the wedding we dream of. So why not have a classy fun party, I just really want to get married anyways.” And so we booked a venue that weekend. And we were off!
Post # 14
We’re getting married August 7th and we got engaged Feb 4th! Granted, I did a ton of preplanning, but it’s still a little tricky!
Post # 15
I understand how all of you feel. I planned a wedding in 4 months in another state where no one we knew lived, got engaged a month and a half before the wedding and got our immediate family down and back in one piece! It was awesome! I have been an event planner for over 10 years and after I planned our wedding I decided to take that experience and turn it into my own wedding and event planning business. I love weddings and planning them is so much fun no matter the time line! Good luck to all of you girls!
Post # 16
I planned mine in 5 months and everything went PERFECTLY! Just remember to be laid back about everything – things are going to change and not be exactly how you dreamed them up – just remember to be ok with it! Make checklists and you will be totally fine