(Closed) quick question about thank you cards

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes you should send a thank you if they didn’t bring a gift.  Just thank them for sharing the day with you and making it special.  And yes, thank you card for the member of the party who didn’t give anything.  I figure it’s always better to err on the side of caution and send a thank you!  No one ever complained of someone being too polite but they sure complain about rude people!

Post # 5
Member
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve heard from both sides of it – I think it’s entirely up to you. If it’s mostly family members, ask your mom or dad their thoughts. 

I honestly don’t think it will matter too much either way if you do or don’t send them to non-gift givers.

Post # 6
Member
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Well it really depends who you ask. According to Emily Post, you only send thank you’s to those who gave you a gift (in addition to your attendants, vendors, host/hostess, and anyone who did anything special for you).  

For those who attended but did not give a gift along the way, the reception is the “thank you” for sharing the special day with you.

Post # 7
Member
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@breadandbutterflies:  Thank you notes are for gifts only.  You have already thanked the guests in person (I hope) at the wedding for coming, as well as hosting them and giving them your hospitality.

Sending notes to people who didn’t gift can be seen as a hint to remember to gift you.

Post # 8
Member
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@andielovesj:  Sweet. Thanks for this- I have a family friend who just asked this same question like two weeks ago and I was like must hunt on the Bee! You’ve given some solid advice on other posts as well so I’m going to tell her this. 

Post # 9
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650 posts
Busy bee

THis thread is really helpful becazuse  was wondering the same thing but I think I’m just going to send thank you cards to everyone who attended

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