(Closed) quick question – addressing invitations

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i wouldn’t just assume they know, i think it’s nice to put their name on the invite. that way there’s no questioning who’s getting invited.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

All of the etiquette books I’ve read suggest that if a couple is not married, engaged, or living together, that you invite the person you know “and Guest.” I guess it can happen with married, engaged, or cohabitating couples, too, but it’s even more likely that a “dating” couple might no longer be together two months after invitations are sent out.

I’m in the same situation (cousins with significant others, no inner envelope), and this is what I’m doing:

Mr. Male Cousin and Guest

123 Any Street

Anytown, NY  12345

I’m sure some etiquette buffs would frown upon this, but in the absence of an inner envelope, I think it’s the best solution.

Post # 5
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Hm. I definitely wouldn’t just leave it ambiguous because your cousins might get confused about whether or not their dates are invited. If they have been together for a long period of time, I think I would put Mr. Cousin and Miss Never Met Her. It seems like you at least cared enough to find out her name.

Post # 6
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We are not doing inner envelopes – we’re making pre-addressed postcards – so we’re addressing ours with both names if they are engaged / living together / been together for awhile. Otherwise, we’re just addressing it to the person we do know and putting on the RSVP how many seats are reserved so they can bring that other person. We don’t really have too many in that position, so we thought that was the best way to go about things.

Post # 7
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18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I addressed invitations to non-married couples on the same envelope.  I sent them to the person that I knew best.  I didn’t know that you sent them seperately.  I think that would be kind of confusing for them and they might RSVP twice with their SO as a guest each time.

So I think that the best thing would be to have Mr. Joe Smith and Miss Jacky Doe at your cousin’s address.  If they have been together for a while, it is sort of rude just to call the girl Guest.

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