Post # 1
I have read a fair bit and seen that most brides give their bridesmaids gifts at the rehearsal dinner; however, rehearsal dinners aren’t common in Australia (and we aren’t having one ourselves) so I was wondering if it was “ok” to give them their gifts on the morning of our wedding day.
Just wasn’t sure if there was some unspoken etiquette rule I was unaware about that says they should receive their gifts prior to the wedding day.
Feel free to poll without comment if you like. 🙂
Post # 3
I think as long as the gifts are easily carried or stowed, you’re fine! If you’re giving a larger gift, maybe give the thank you gifts after the wedding or earlier in the week.
Post # 4
@ksus07: Im giving my gifts on the day but not at the wedding instead all at the hotels in the getting ready stages.
I was unaware rehearsal dinners were not common here?? Every wedding ive been to has had one, as well as mine will!!
Post # 5
@Pokemon: Oh! Must be where I am (Darwin… generally very laid back about everything up here, haha) But I have attended weddings in both Darwin and Sydney (both ends of the typical formality scale!) so I’m not sure. But anyway. Yes I was thinking the same, to give them gifts before/whilst we get ready in the morning aka during our champagne breakfast 😉
I’ll be giving them each a silk robe in a unique colour, perfume and jewellery, so nothing large, and things they can wear that day, if they choose.
Post # 6
That’s when I gave my girls their gifts – in the hotel suite where we were getting ready that morning. I had a private moment with each of them and it was a really special time actually.
Post # 7
I planned to give my girls their gifts the day of, but they were too excited to wait so I gave them to them earlier in the week.
I think it’s sweet to give them on the day of the wedding 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I don’t see anything wrong with it (plus you get pics of their happy faces!), the only thing I would consider is whether or not it’ll be easy for them to store them somewhere (like if they are staying in the hotel, if you guys have the hotel room booked so they can keep their stuff there, etc).
Post # 9
I would, yes. I think it all depends on how you view your day ; I guess some brides may want to keep the whole day on themselves and it’s okay also. However, I believe it can be a very appreciated gesture and emotional moment for both you and your bridesmaids to share your wedding + your gratefulness toward them at the same time. 🙂
Post # 10
@elysion: Fortunately, I think the room we’re getting ready in is in a different hotel to the one that the hubby and I will be heading to later on. But yes, very good point indeed – it’s the little things like that that I tend to forget about until it’s too late!
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Yes ma’am. You can give them to them when ever you’d like. Every time I’ve been in a wedding I received the gift day of.
Post # 12
Yeah, I’d say it’s fine as long as they have a way to store them so they don’t get lost/left behind. Just depends on the exact situation.
Post # 13
@ksus07: I’m Australian and I gave my girls their gifts on the morning. I’ve been to weddings in 4 different states and none had a rehearsal dinner, in fact I never even heard of them until I started visiting US-based sites like this one.
Post # 14
@paula1248: Yeah, that’s what I experienced as well! There’s a whole heap of wedding stuff I never even knew existed until I came on here… Like wedding registries. I had no idea about these until I watched a certain chick flick (forgot which one it was, but I remember thinking, “Eh? She’s wearing her handbag and scanning stuff… she doesn’t look like she works there? What the hell?”)
Haha. And then when I found out what she was doing I remember thinking the concept came across as being quite rude! “Wow, I can’t believe they actually TELL people that they want stuff, let alone WHAT they want exactly…” I’m not having a registry myself, but having said that, I certainly don’t have any judgements about people who do!
Post # 15
@ksus07: I’m with you guys. Rehearsal dinnners are not traditionally part of the Australian wedding experience. In fact I have been in over 20 weddings and only one has even had a rehearsal.
I think it is the internet and dominance of US media/TV/Movies in Australia that is the problem.
I think if they will have to carry them around all day or leave them somewhere unsecure then you should probably give your gift to them another day. But if they will have a secure place to keep them then I think it would be fine to give it to them on the wedding day.
Post # 16
@ksus07: Every wedding I have been in, been to or known of the bride gives her attendants their gifts just after hair and makeup, but then again it’s usually jewellery so they “complete the look” in a way, I found it very endearing when my SIL came in after I had my hair done and put the necklace on me 🙂
I have also never heard of doing a rehearsal dinner! Seems like an expense and a time consuming activity I dont need the night before the big day! I wanna relax (if that’s possible haha!)