Quick question: Can I give my bridesmaids their gifts on the day?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it ok to give my bridesmaids their gifts on the morning of?
    Yes. : (44 votes)
    96 %
    No. : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think as long as the gifts are easily carried or stowed, you’re fine! If you’re giving a larger gift, maybe give the thank you gifts after the wedding or earlier in the week. 

    Post # 4
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    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @ksus07:  Im giving my gifts on the day but not at the wedding instead all at the hotels in the getting ready stages. 

    I was unaware rehearsal dinners were not common here?? Every wedding ive been to has had one, as well as mine will!!

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    That’s when I gave my girls their gifts – in the hotel suite where we were getting ready that morning.  I had a private moment with each of them and it was a really special time actually. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I planned to give my girls their gifts the day of, but they were too excited to wait so I gave them to them earlier in the week.

    I think it’s sweet to give them on the day of the wedding 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I don’t see anything wrong with it (plus you get pics of their happy faces!), the only thing I would consider is whether or not it’ll be easy for them to store them somewhere (like if they are staying in the hotel, if you guys have the hotel room booked so they can keep their stuff there, etc).

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee

    I would, yes. I think it all depends on how you view your day ; I guess some brides may want to keep the whole day on themselves and it’s okay also. However, I believe it can be a very appreciated gesture and emotional moment for both you and your bridesmaids to share your wedding + your gratefulness toward them at the same time. 🙂 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club

    Yes ma’am. You can give them to them when ever you’d like. Every time I’ve been in a wedding I received the gift day of.

    Post # 12
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yeah, I’d say it’s fine as long as they have a way to store them so they don’t get lost/left behind.  Just depends on the exact situation. 

    Post # 13
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @ksus07:  I’m Australian and I gave my girls their gifts on the morning. I’ve been to weddings in 4 different states and none had a rehearsal dinner, in fact I never even heard of them until I started visiting US-based sites like this one.

    Post # 15
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    7410 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @paula1248:  

    @ksus07:  I’m with you guys. Rehearsal dinnners are not traditionally part of the Australian wedding experience. In fact I have been in over 20 weddings and only one has even had a rehearsal.

    I think it is the internet and dominance of US media/TV/Movies in Australia that is the problem.

    I think if they will have to carry them around all day or leave them somewhere unsecure then you should probably give your gift to them another day. But if they will have a secure place to keep them then I think it would be fine to give it to them on the wedding day.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @ksus07:  Every wedding I have been in, been to or known of the bride gives her attendants their gifts just after hair and makeup, but then again it’s usually jewellery so they “complete the look” in a way, I found it very endearing when my SIL came in after I had my hair done and put the necklace on me 🙂

    I have also never heard of doing a rehearsal dinner! Seems like an expense and a time consuming activity I dont need the night before the big day! I wanna relax (if that’s possible haha!)

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