Post # 1
So tell me what you all think about “rebounds”.
Scenario: a week after you walk away from a serious (tumultuous) relationship, a (seemingly) amazing guy asks you out at random. Do you go? Or should you be taking time alone?
Asking for a friend 😉
Post # 3
Anna113619: I’d say do it. Nothing wrong with having some fun, and I know quite a few people that have “rebounded” and then ended up with that person lol. You just never know.
Post # 4
go. When you’ve broken up, it’s fair game.
Post # 5
You go! My SO and I met while he was in the midst of a divorce. I was the first person he dated too. That was a few years ago, we are still amazingly happy, getting married and have a little one on the way. You never know when you are going to meet “the one.”
Post # 6
You go! I had just broken up with a bf a month before meeting my Darling Husband, and he had just ended his previous engagement shortly before we met. We were engaged 6 months after our first date, and married 10 months after we met. We also have a little girl together now. You just never know what can happen!
Post # 7
I married my rebound and could not be happier about it. I was in a relationship for 6 years where there was a lot of love but also too much pain and it just couldn’t work out because in the end, we weren’t right together. I met Darling Husband while still in that relationship and it wasn’t long after I broke up with my ex that we started going out (like, a week after). I didn’t feel quite ready to date so soon, but he was just this amazing guy that I didn’t want to lose my chance with. He understood where I was coming from and was amazing with me and within 6 months I knew I wanted to marry him. This was 7 years ago and we are going on our 5 years wedding anniversary soon – love him to death and am very happy with our decision to date so soon after my relationship ended.
Post # 8
I think it depends on the person who just got out of the relationship. If they are the needy type, they definitely need to spend some time alone before latching on to someone else. But for the independent, sure, they should have all the fun while they can. 😉
Post # 9
Go for it! I am my FI’s rebound and he is mine and now we’re getting married! So many people said give it time but I think it depends. Some people do need some alone time, especially if your always in long term but ending relationships maybe some time to find you and what you want is a good thing. I have had a best friend that created a lot of damage ( more to herself) from jumping on a rebound right after divorce.
For my Fiance and I, I think we were both so vulnerable and raw and knew exactly what we didn’t want from our exes that it worked out for us, and I’ve heard ALOT of those stories
Post # 10
Well, I’m in the minority here. I think people need time to heal. But maybe that’s just me!
Post # 11
Anna113619: Go for it! Life is too short to be miserable.
Post # 13
Do ittt 😀 but keep in mind that it probably is just a rebound, don’t get sucked into another relationship right after a serious one.
Post # 14
I think healing is important. It depends on a number of factors, though. You may think that you are ready and not actually be there yet. If you go out with someone, there should be no expectation of a serious relationship, just relaxing and having fun. After a serious committed relationship ending, I would take some time just to be on my own and figure out what went wrong and how I can be more careful the next time (but that is just me).
Post # 15
Dh was a rebound. When we met, I was going through an ugly divorce from an abuser.
The reason it worked is because dh moved so slowly. He was a perfect gentleman, no pressure, just taking me out to nice dinners & enjoying spending time with my dogs.
Being treated with such respect actually had a healing effect for me. I had a LOT of anger to work through as well as anxiety & depression, which I dealt with in therapy.
It was 8 mos until anything physical happened & that was on my signal. Imagine that after being with a controlling abuser.
Ten years later, we’re more solid than ever. We started out as friends & we still are.
So I think a rebound can work as long as you’re not using it to self medicate against the pain of the previous break up.