Post # 1
I am having a really rough time of it right now and need an impartial party to lend an ear. Then i will be fine and continue on as needed….
Here is the summary of it….
Our wedding is in 14 days.
My father just sold his house and is moving the day after my wedding.
My mother (divorced) has bought a new house and will be moving a month or so after the wedding.
My sister (BM) and best friend (MOH) both announced they were pregnant after i asked them, one just had her baby and the other is due in 12 weeks.
My grandparents just bought a new house and will be moving within the month and have determined they cannot make it to the wedding-too much stress.
Tomorrow is fathers day-we celebrated a day early with my dad because…..
…..our friend (exchange student from Japan) graduates Monday from University and his parents are flying in from Japan today. We have to pick them up and then are taking them to the coast to experiance Oregon tomorrow. (My wedding is in 14 days!). I just found out that the hotel they booked is one of the worst in the area (very shady/dirty/we would never stay there) and after calling and looking online there are no other places in town for our friends from Japan to stay. So my FI has invited them to stay with us.
I have not been keeping up the house, because of all my DIY projects, so i have just finished cleaning my entire house from top to bottom while my FI played xbox the entire time. (where has my helpful, useful Fi gone?!)
I am exhausted and overwhelmed. Close to tears. Just want to be done and over the wedding. And am tired of having to share my moment with every other member of the family. I know i am being petty and insensitive to my families feelings at this moment and up until now have been kind. But i am so done. I want to call the whole thing off and take my honeymoon alone.
I know i am being a whiny brat at the moment. But i am venting here, because i am trying to keep up the happy smily bride face to my family.
Did anyone go through a lot while they were planning their wedding/getting married. We do not have a lot of money so i am doing everything – with family/friends’ help ourselves. No vendors at all.
Can you offer any advice? Please dont be harsh on me. I have not had a single bridezilla moment. Promise.
Post # 3
A bottle of wine and large piece of chocolate cake.
That’s my advice.
It will make you feel better…
Seriously, it will. When things get overwhelming, doing something that you know is completely self-indulgent helps.
Post # 4
I don’t blame you for being overwhelmed! Can FH clean or help with the wedding stuff?
Post # 5
You need to do something for you, to relax! And you need to tell FI he needs to help more, and not to invite people without discussing it with you first. Sure, you probably would have offerEd, but you could have negotiated with him re cleaning the house.
Most of all, it’s all going to be okay. You’re doing the right thing to vent here instead of letting it pile up. I’d take a bubble bath, read a good book, and listen to soothing music. Hugs!
Post # 6
First, you’re not a bridezilla. You’re human and have a lot of stressful things going on beyond a wedding. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and want the focus on you. It’s one of the most special times in your life.
I say cry and let it out. Even if you need a few minutes by yourself to get it out. It will make you feel better. I’ve done the same thing a few times during the past few months. Wouldn’t it be nice if ‘real’ life stopped when started planning a wedding.
Next, take a deep breath and take things one day at a time. Get through the weekend and vent to someone, your FI, a close friend, someone.
It will be okay, I promise. Hang in there!
p.s. My parents are moving right now, too. It’s hard to plan wedding things when all my mom cares about is decorating her new kitchen. Gah!!!
Post # 7
I’m sure it will all work out. Plus, now your house is lovely and clean!
Post # 8
My parents moved to Florida 3 months before our wedding date, even though they knew I wanted to use their back yard and out building for our wedding.. They moved anyway, now I am not even sure if they will make it back for the wedding, they are having trouble finding jobs and such… (they moved from Iowa to Florida) I don’t know why the hurry and why they couldn’t wait 3 more months…. Plus ever since I got engaged all my mom was worried about ws their move, I practically had to beg her to come see my dress the day I bought it, she was always too busy to help with anything wedding wise.
So I can understand where you are coming from.
The stress will get better and before you know it, you will be married, and everything will work out!
Post # 9
I know a lot of people are moving, but maybe could your MOH offer to take in the house guests? I am MOH at a wedding in August and I am hosting one of the BM’s and her boyfriend for a week before the wedding.
You know her though, so you would know if that is something you can ask.
My advice is to take a big breath and carry on. You probably think your place is a lot messier than anyone else would ever notice. Plus, they would COMPLETELY understand DIY projects being around. Maybe they might offer to help?
When everything is said and done you will be incredible proud of how much you were able to handle all at the same time. It will come together.