Post # 1
The big day for us has come and gone. I loved the day but there were definitly things I would have changed. The flowers for the wedding party were all in the wrong color (were supposed to be white- discussed this at least 4 times with the florist), I was running 30 min late for pictures, and we didn’t have a ton of time to socialize and relax at the reception. These things were bumps in the road and didn’t really bother me much.
For some reason though, my MIL really got to me the day of our wedding. She had me help her decide an outfit for her the day of the wedding. She had two navy blue dresses (navy was our main color) and a white dress. I picked both of the navy ones, saying I didn’t really care for white outside of the bride for the wedding day. She agreed with me. Then, the day of, she skipped out on getting hair done with us after we already paid for it. She then showed up to pictures in the white dress. The last thing that got on my nerves was while we were taking pictures, I was holding my train up so it wouldn’t get filthy prior to the ceremony. She comes up and says to me, “the way you are standing makes you look pregnant- thats how pregnant girls stand”. I finally had a brief moment where I stood up for myself but only a little. I didn’t speak to her the rest of the day and she has been very standoffish since the wedding. We had always gotten along prior to!
Post # 3
That would get on my nerves, too 🙁 Try not to dwell on it. The wedding is over and now you are married to the man you picked 🙂 I hope the relationship with your MIL improves from here.
Post # 4
I’m sorry she did that behind your back and that she said that to you, however I can tell you from looking at that picture it looks to me like her dress is light blue. Alas, nothing you can do about it now, some people just have to cause drama!
Post # 5
@cseyler: If it makes you feel better, her dress does not look white. Furthermore, it was she who looked foolish wearing white that day.
Have you spoken to your DH about this? Maybe she is having a hard time letting go. Either way, continue to be the bigger person.
Post # 6
That doesn’t hit me as a white dress at all!
Post # 7
The only thing I noticed about your picture that was “off” was her face. She looks annoyed and maybe bored? Certainly not happy.
Post # 8
@cseyler: Sorry she was so rude. Her dress looks more like that cauliflouwer blue in the crayon box than white, so I don’t think anyone mistook her for the bride or thought she was wearing white. I just found it odd she wasn’t really smiling, but maybe that’s the way she smiled.
Post # 9
I think it’s inappropriate for you to share her picture on this website without her consent. Her dress looks like a very pale blue to me. Skipping out on the hair and the pregnant comment were extremely rude, though.
You looked amazing on your wedding day, btw!
Post # 10
@cseyler: Sorry she said that to you! You look slender and not even the least bit pregnant. But at first glance I thought her dress was gray… not at all white.
Post # 11
@MrsStayPuft: +1000 to everything.
Post # 12
@cseyler: sorry you had to deal with her:( You look stunning though!!
Post # 13
I’d be upset too and just so you know, you’re not crazy – as far as I’m concerned, that’s a white dress. I guess all you can do is take a deep breath and extend an olive branch and hope for the best. Sometimes weddings bring out the crazy in moms!
Post # 14
Whether or not the dress “looks” white isn’t really the issue. She knew how you felt and disrespected your feelings anyway. That’s really sad, honestly. And her comment to you about “looking pregnant” is just terrible. (No offence to the beautiful ladies who are actually pregnant, of course!)
Since you say this is the first time you’ve had problems, is there any chance it could be chalked up to high emotion (the comment, not the dress) and not thinking before speaking? Sometimes people say the strangest things when they are stressed.