Post # 1
I know feeling the way I do is immature, but hopefully someone can relate 🙂
Last year, a pretty good friend of FI got married. He and his wife planned a 100-persono wedding, but because her family is so large (and they invited children), he couldn’t invite any of his friends – just family. He explained the situation and while FI was disappointed, he understood. Then, two weeks before the wedding, the friend called FI and said that he could squeeze him in. Since the wedding was two weeks away, out of town, and on a Thursday, FI declined. The friend sent him an invitation anyway… and it was addressed just to him. I felt a bit snubbed— there was NO WAY we would have gone to this wedding, but the couple had to make sure that if we had been invited “for real,” we would not both have been invited (at that point we were two years dating, plus living together). Not a huge deal, but I thought the whole situation was kind of strange.
Now, as we’re planning our wedding, I get irritated every time I see this friend and his wife on the guest list. I just addressed their envelope for the invite. It’s so immature, but I just wanted to leave the wife’s name off!
I didn’t, of course. Really, I feel bad that this guy ended up with no friends at his wedding – probably doesn’t bode well for his marriage. But does anyone else have these “WTF, why am I inviting this person?” moments when addressing the invitations?
Post # 3
Yep!! I know I would’ve when the time came.
I hate-seriously hate, hate, hate, hate- part of my immediate family (BF can’t stand them either). I would’ve had to invite them to please my grandmother. But I’m nipping that right in the bud….going to Hawaii.
I would feel the same way that you do about this wife. It was strange that even though your FI declined they sent the invite after all. Maybe they won’t come after all? You could’ve “accidently” left her name off too 🙂 Just kidding
Post # 4
it sounds like this girl is controlling everything this guy does…reading your post reminded me of an episode of bridezillas i saw awhile back. the bride on the show hardly let him talk to any of his friends and even made the comment that after they were married he wasn’t allowed to speak to them any more. i wanted to climb through the tv and smack her!
back in october my cousin got married i happened to be home for it. the reasons i was actually home werent good but none the less i was able to to show up to the reception. i almost didn’t go because i thought that i hadn’t been invited. when i said something to my mom about she told me that yes i was invited. i was included in their invitation. i was kind of mad about it. im a grown ass woman who does NOT live with my mom and i havent lived there since i was 18 and joined the navy. im actually already married…we did a quick courthouse thing and were about to have our big wedding. its not a secret….everyone knows that we’re already married. so needless to say i was kind of mad that they couldn’t even send an invitation us instead of including me on my moms. oh well…i got over it and still went to the reception.
Post # 5
yeah, sometimes you just have to be nice though, whether or not it makes sense to!
Post # 6
I agree with you that seems rude I told people in my wedding that they can bring there signifigant other or a date if they like.
Post # 7
Yeah, I can get how you can be annoyed by this.
it sounds like he sent the invite to your FI out of courtesy because he said he could fit him in. So many times, especially on the boards, people recommend sending an invite because you never know how plans might change.
Don’t let it get you down!