Quite the dilemma..

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should I tell my principal I'm pregnant, even though I'm only 5 weeks?
    Yes, you should under the circumstances : (32 votes)
    48 %
    No, it's still too early : (33 votes)
    50 %
    Obligatory other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Wellington Bride:  I would just explain the situation to her and tell her. it will make it be more understandable for her. Also, I would tell her that it’s very early and that you don’t want anyone else to know. 

    Post # 4
    1472 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I would tell your principal and express why you don’t want anyone else to know (which is totally normal). She can keep it under wraps and also provide the support you might need right now. One of my friends was teaching and had TERRIBLE morning sickness throughout the beginning of the pregnancy. She had to tell the principal so she knew why she was sitting (and eating) during the day in front of the kiddos. The principal was very supportive.

    Post # 5
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d move him and tell the principal about your pregnancy–that way you can say that there’s no reason to upset the parents by keeping him in your class when he’d get a new teacher in September, anyway!

    Post # 6
    1689 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would tell her. I told my principal at 5 weeks because we had a case of slap cheek going around the school which is highly dangerous for pregnant women. Not the same case at all I know… but sometimes its just easier to share the news to get more understanding of a certain situation. My principal kept my secret until I went public this week. I sympathize with you though! I also teach grade two and have some very concerning behaviors this year. It can be so stressful… especially when your hormones are raging! 






    Post # 8
    419 posts
    Helper bee

    I wouldn’t say anything about being pregnant. It’s really early and you risk all kinds of questions and stuff if anything goes wrong. But the parents are upset and they sound like a pain. I would put it to the principle like this -I really gave it my all with that kid. I feel like they are not happy and might either mesh better with another teacher, or perhaps after trying another teacher they may realize that they are blaming teachers quickly. Either way a clean slate might really be good for him.’ When it comes to what is best for the kid (which is what everyone should want) they know what you as a teacher results in. Another teacher might be better suited. It’s not anything against you, it’s just not a match style-wise. Also they are already adding in another level wich is going to mean you can devote less time to this kid. (in honestly they sound like a pain and they will only realize after they burn through 10 teachers that maybe it’s the kid) 

    Post # 10
    1244 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I don’t think you need to use the pregnancy as the reason. Just tell her this has caused a tremendous amount of stress and for health reasons you don’t think it would be best for you to continue. You could also look at it from the parents’ point of view and just say that you’re just not the right fit for the family.


    Post # 11
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think you should say a word about being pregnant. The decision needs to be what is bed for the student and not what’s best for you in my opinion. If you bring up pregnancy as a reason then it looks like youre not thinking about what is best for the student.

    Post # 12
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Actually, I think if you tell your principal that you’re pregnant and this is the reason, you are thinking about what best suits the needs of the child. From what you’ve said, this child has some emotional and social problems. As an educator myself, I know that change can be very hard on some students with these types of needs. If you keep the student in your room and then go on maternity leave, it could be really difficult for the child to make that adjustment to another teacher (and then, back to you if you return before the end of the school year).This way, you can help provide support as the child transitions teachers. It’s only one change to make, instead of two.



    Post # 14
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Wellington Bride:  I would go ahead and tell. You’re looking out for the interest of the child to not have so many teacher changes. I told my principal after I was crying at work in front of her. It wasn’t like me and I felt like she needed to know why I was acting so strange. It sounds like walking out of a meeting isn’t the norm for you either and the pregnancy would also help explain your emotional reaction at that time. Even if things don’t work out with the pregnancy you’re likely to be acting a little differently as a result. 

    Best wishes and good luck! 


    Post # 15
    1029 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Hmmm… I might start by saying that you are dealing with some personal issues that are taking a toll on you emotionally right now. It’s still pretty early and, regardless of job security, you might want to keep that news out of your work-life as long as possible. It sounds like she’s a good principal, and I am guessing she’ll be understanding if this difficult child is just more than you can handle right now.

    Whatever you decided, good luck and congratulations!

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