Post # 1
Yesterday the boyfriend and I decided that we were going to quit smoking today. And I’m going crazy. I’ve been chewing on ice, my fingernails, straws, you name it- I’ve probably chewed on it. I thought about going for a walk, but right now I’m sick and physical activity makes my lungs hurt worse than they already do from my illness. 🙁
I’m really craving a cigarette and wanted to know if any of my fellow bee friends have any advice or stories of inspiration. I know I have to do it (I’ve been a smoker for 5 years now…AND have asthma…) it’s just so difficult, it’s literally all I can think about today.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
Remember your health! The biggest benefit there is! And that every day will get easier, though there may be bumps in the road, you are always moving in the right direction. I think it’s great that you’re doing this together, it’s much harder to go it alone! And it may even bring you guys closer together – congrats!
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I smoked for almost 20 years (yikes). I stopped being a really heavy smoker about 12 years ago, but I still smoked maybe 3 or 4 cigarettes a day, more if I was out drinking.
I’d tried quitting several times before. I went on the patch, which worked GREAT, but when I went off the patch, I was nauseous and miserable. I tried cold turkey a few times but always went back.
What worked for me finally was that the boy, one day, said “I really wish you’d quit smoking.” And so I promised him I would, and I did. It’s been 6 months and there have been plenty of times that I’ve craved a smoke, but I just think that if I have a cigarette, I’d be breaking a promise to him.
So maybe if you and he promise each other, that you won’t smoke, it’ll be easier to quit as you’d be breaking a promise if you start up again. As far as the cravings go, maybe nicotine gum? I’ve never tried it but they say it works.
Very soon, you’ll probably get a really nasty, phlegm-y cough for a few days as all the crap works its way out of your lungs, and it’ll make you not want to smoke anyway.
Post # 5
My best friend (and MOH) struggled with this. She had a few setbacks, although she’s now smoke-free. The times she relapsed it was because she was sure that she could limit her number to X per week. She’d tell herself she got 4 cigarettes a week, then she’d go to a party, smoke them all, and give in later in the week.
So don’t do that! Quit cold turkey. I really admire what you’re doing. Smoking is such a difficult thing… I live in an environment where so many people smoke, and I got a lot cravings to smoke last year even though I’m a non-smoker and my grandma died from pancreatic cancer from smoking for 35 years.
It’s powerful stuff, but your brain is powerful, too, and you can kick the habit for good. Stay strong!
Post # 6
I quit when I was sick too. I had bronchitis really bad, but didn’t have medical insurance so I couldn’t afford to go to the doctor. The best cure for me? I smoked a cigarette all the way through, and my lungs felt like they were on fire. That was when I knew I could quit. I was sick for 3 weeks, and by the time I felt well enough to smoke again, I wanted nothing to do with it.
If you are having crazy cravings have you thought about the patch or the gum? Have you spoken with your doctor? My Mother-In-Law takes Chantix, and she really likes it. Also, beware, I gained 20 lbs after I quit smoking. Maybe substitute your craving for a cigarette for some excercise. Even when I was a smoker and I worked out, I never wanted a cigarette after a good workout.
Try to keep busy and keep your mind off of smoking. I hope you find something that works for you! Good Luck!
Post # 7
Good luck, you can do it!
Post # 8
Congrats for making the choice to quit Lindsay!
I smoked from age 16(yikes!)-24, I’ve been cold turkey for 4 years now. I finally had it one day when I had a cigarette (again) and it made me feel sick and tasted terrible. On top of that I obviously knew how bad they were for me and I had to do something.
What worked for me was every time I had a craving, I had to mentally squash it by reminding myself over and over and over and over and over… and over WHY I was quitting. YOur cravings make you forget why and forget how bad cigarettes are for you. It was particularly hard when I was doing something like drinking coffee when I always had a cigarette.
I’ve since had dreams of smoking, but never broken my cold turkey status. And Fiance has admitted (he knew me back when I used to smoke) that he thinks it’s much more ‘ladylike’ that I don’t and he would have a problem dating a smoker.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies, I really appreicate the encouragement.
We’ve quit quite a few times, the longest lasting 3 months last year, but something always throws us back into cravings and I, especially, cave. I know the benifits of quitting outweighs smoking (you smell better, you feel physically better, etc.), I’m just driving myself crazy!
Post # 10
I smoked for 11 years. Longer than I ever did anything else. It was a disgusting habit and I miss the Sh*t out of it. haha I quit about 18 months ago and I’d say it took a good 3 months before I stopped thinking about it all day every day, a good 6 months before a day went by that it didn’t enter my mind at least once. But you just have to power through. The best advice I got was if you slip up and have one, just accept that and move ahead. Too many people think if it’s not perfect it’s not worth it and when they slip up once they just go right back to it. Just give yourself room to be human and think about all the money you’ll save! haha Good luck!
Post # 11
I of all people know how hard it is to quit ( I smoked for 10 years) … And honestly I never wanted to quit. I thought I loved smoking. When you are addicted to nicotine it doesn’t matter how many people tell you its bad for you… they just don’t get it.
My friend from London was visiting and he has not smoked in 2 years… he mentioned something about a book a few years past but I did not take a stupid book seriously. Of course I asked him about it in November when he was out for a visit. After he returned he mailed me this book: The EasyWay to Quit Smoking by Allen Carr.
I read it… not thinking I was going to quit but read it with an open mind. At 100 pages left of the book I quit. 100% stopped with no insane cravings, no withdrawls just quit. This was 2 months ago and I feel great! I honestly never thought I was going to quit after reading a book but I did.
So what can it hurt… the worst thing is you still may smoke. If you try it let me know how you do.
Post # 12
@otb- I’ve wanted to try Chantix for a while now, but because I don’t have health insurance it is extremely expensive ($180 the first month). So I’ve nixed the idea and we’ve decided to quit cold turkey. I’ve never tried the gum or the patch, I’m terribly afraid that I’d become addicted to them as well as the cigarettes and the cycle would continue.
@sweetaldelinexo- (BTW I love, love, love that song by Elliott Smith) The boyfriend and I have talked about putting $5 a day into a jar (what we would spend on cigarettes normally) and save it for something. Money is a big incentive of why we both quit.
Also, as soon as I’m better from this cold/flu thing going on, we’re going to start doing more physical activity. We’ve wanted to for a while now, but with my having asthma and smoking a pack a day, my lungs just couldn’t take it. I’m sure that the more we do, the less I’ll think about smoking. Thanks for the suggestions. 🙂
Post # 13
Hope you’re feeling a little better!
Post # 14
Honestly, I do a little, thanks to all of you. 🙂 I’m on hour 19 of being smoke free! Woo hoo! Haha
Post # 15
I tried many times over the years, smoked from 18-30. Now I’m 32 and I quit because I couldn’t stand the smell anymore. I always had to wash my hands and put on perfume and I just got sick of it. My new boyfriend also doesn’t smoke and I didn’t want to stink around him. You have to stay away from people who smoke! It makes a huge difference! Good luck.