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    SouthernGirl    October 2013   Alabama

    I'm 21 now, almost 22, and I've been smoking since I was 16. Bad, I know, but my story is the typical "I had lots of older friends and they all smoked so I needed to be cool too". Now I'm ready to quit. The only problem is that this is only my third or fourth time trying to quit. I know that I wasn't really trying to quit before, but I'm really worried about a relapse. My FH smokes, my best friend smokes and I see them A LOT. FH has said that he'll quit with me, but he doesn't really want to, so I know it may not work.

    I've decided that Monday I'm going to go buy the patches and begin my journey.

    But I need some tips or some advice from other Bees. I only know a handful of smokers who quit without problems, and most of them had to get pregnant in order to quit. I'm not looking to have a baby anytime soon, so any advice would be appreciated.

     
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    banana_anna    October 30, 2011   Melbourne, Australia

    Personally my husband and I used the medication Champix (I think its called Champax or something similar in America). It worked a treat for us, no side effects and we've been off them since May 2011 now.

    I'm not saying that patches wont' work for you becuase they work for loads of people, but if you need another option, I would recommend trying the medication. 

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    The only advice I have is not to take Chantex.  I have known several people that have taken it and the side effects are really ugly, which the doctors downplay, which they really shouldn't.

    Good luck, I know how hard it is.

     
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    regberadaisy    August 14, 2010  

    I'm not a smoker but my husband was. He started smoking at 16 as well and like you have quit several times prior. When he finally quit for good he did it cold turkey and the only reason it worked is because HE wanted to do it 110%. He knew how much I hated it that he smoked so I, our then non existent future family and life was the reason that really propelled him to quit for good. He hasn't smoked for almost 7 years now.

    As for those around him that smoked, his dad still did, his brother still did and so did all his co-workers. He just flat out told everyone to stop smoking around him.

    His dad did it with Chantix recently and it worked for him with no side effects.

     
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    elysion    August 17, 2013   Chicago, IL

    Good for you for quitting!  I don't have firsthand experience, but you could try getting one of those electric cigarettes that are supposed to give you a burst of nicotine without the carcinogens and stuff.

     
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    Aure    October 6, 2012   Las Vegas

    I recently quit. The way I did it was to allow myself a cigarette when I wanted one, mainly when drinking. You'd be surprised how much you realize you're taking your smoke break because it's routine, not because you actually want it.

     
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    SouthernGirl    October 2013   Alabama

    @elysion:  I have one and I've been trying to cut down by using it. Like, substituting a real cigarette for the e cigarette but I know it's just not going to cut it.

     

    @banana_anna:  Is it hard to get it from a doctor? Like, did you have to try x number of other methods first?

     

     
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    SouthernGirl    October 2013   Alabama

    @Aure:  I've thought about it too. I found myself lighting up every time I got in my car, even though I didn't actually want a cigarette. I'm not smoking in my new car though, and I've found that it really isn't that hard not to smoke, it's just making myself not want a cigarette period.

     
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    LovesToPlan    October 2012  

    @SouthernGirl: My friend's bf quit when he read a book.  I know it sounds unlikely but he smoked a pack and a half a day, was ready to quit (like you are!) and read this book.  Hasn't picked up a cig since.  

     
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    Miss Longcoat    March 31, 2012   Woodbridge, VA

    First off, big hug for taking this on.
    I quit by cutting back first, and letting myself have 2 cigarettes aa day for a while. When you choose to have those two will help you figure out how best to cope without them, in a way. I realized I smoked because I was bored during my commute. After a while, the smoke smell bothered me and I stopped entirely.

     
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    lawschool bride    August 13, 2011  

    Oh gosh, I know how hard it is.  I haven't quit sucessfully yet, my plan is to try again in a couple weeks, after taking the bar exam.  But I do have some tips on what was working and what made me fail.  

    I personally liked the gum more than the patches.  I gelt more in control with the gum, like I could have some when I needed it or wean myself off when I didn't.  And find something to break the phsical part of the addiction.  I liked having a lollipop or straw on hand.  Also, find something to help you deal with stress.  I think that's the biggest reason I fail, I didn't have a fall back to help me handle stress.  So figure out what that'll be for you.  Watch out for alcohol.  I can't drink and not smoke, you might wnt to avoid it forr a few months.  

    Definitely ask smokers to not smoke around you.  Oh, and wash all your clothes asap, before your sense of smell comes back (like 48 hours I think)! It's surprising how much everything reeks of smoke even though you can't smell it.  NEVER EVER cave and have a smoke or buy a pack after you've decided to quit... that's also how I messed myself up, it was always "just one more then I'll quit."  Oh yea, and no e cigarette either.  Everyone I know has said it just makes them more addicted.

    I haven't read this book myself, but I've heard it works well :http://www.amazon.com/Allen-Carrs-Easy-Women-Smoking/dp/0572028628 .

    You can do it!! good luck!

     
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    marthanotstewart    December 1, 2012   DW - Los Cabos, Mexico

    Congrats on even thinking about quitting - its a big step.

     

    I'm a former smoker, and currently in my third year of pharmacy school.  If you need any one-on-one advice, message me! I counsel smoking cessation patients in clinic every week.

     
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    MrsBlueSeptember    September 30, 2012  

    I quit smoking last May.  The first 2 weeks were the toughest.  I didn't use the patch and I probably should have, because I was miserable at first.  I had a lot of gum, lollipops and breath mints for the first month.  It is so very hard to do, but if you are determined you can do it.  My mom and my siblings smoke.  The first month or two, when I was around them, I craved it.  I just had to stay strong, talk myself out of wanting one and put a lollipop in my mouth.  Since I quit, I have dreams about smoking.  It's so weird, because when I'm awake I don't have a desire anymore.  I can be around my siblings smoking and the smell turns me off now.  Obviously, the brain remembers that pleasurable addiction hence the occasional dream.  I think if I tried to smoke now, I'd puke.  I have noticed that since I quit food tastes better and when I get a cold, I don't get the cough that lasts a month after the cold is gone. 

    If you want to do it, you can...you just have to hold on to that willpower.  Good luck!

     
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    Mrs Sarah McK    October 10, 2010   Harrisburg, PA

    I had a lot of luck with the gum...I had a big oral fixation, so having something to put in my mouth when I wanted a smoke helped immensely. That took care of the physical part. DH (then BF) had given me an ultimatum...either I quit or we split up, because he couldn't see having a long-term relationship with a smoker. Harsh? Maybe, but I needed it. Every time I felt the gum wasn't good enough and I just HAD TO HAVE  a cigarette, I thought of DH, and was able to abstain.

    Another thing I did was thought of something expensive that I would never have bought for myself, and started setting aside the money I spent every week on cigarettes into a special fund. It was a shock to realize exactly how much I spent on my habit. 

    My mom had a really bad habit when she was in the Army. She'd buy a carton or two a week. She said that blowpops helped her the most. I tried them, but then I remembered that I don't actually like blowpops...

    A friend of mine finally quit smoking after 16 years by smoking Quest cigarettes. There are 3 levels of cigarettes, each level reducing the amount of nicotine in them. So you start with the first level, and gradually move through the second and third. The Quest 3 cigarettes are just nasty. By the time he got to them, he was barely taking in any nicotine, and he didn't want the little he was getting because it came in such a gross package. 

    Good luck!

     
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    janie-janie    February 16, 2010  

    I used to only smoke socially-- just at parties and bars, but no other time. the thing is, we always had to go outside to smoke. 

    I started to realize that it was the tradition of going out into the cool night air that I really missed.  so, after I quit, whenever friends wanted to go outside, I joined them. I just stood there, drinking and talking, but not smoking. at first I was jealous that they had cigarettes, but eventually I began to not miss it anymore. I just wanted to hang out outside with my gang and get away from the party for a few minutes, that's all. 

    out of the many times I tried and failed to quit, this was the one thing that I did differently. it has actually stuck.  it's been 1 year and 3 months and I have not smoked. at this point, I don't even miss it anymore!

     
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    J Dubbs    April 21, 2012   Los Angeles, CA

    Read Alan Carr's "The Easy Way to Quit Smoking."  I was a smoker for many years and quit while reading this.  You have to be really ready to quit, but when you're finally at that point, this book is an amazing help.  I know it sounds strange that a book can help you quit smoking, but it works almost like hynosis (a lot of repetition).  I actually know a couple other people who quit using this book as well.  The book's not that expensive either, so if it doesn't work, you won't feel like you wasted a bunch of money.  Good luck!

     
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    banana_anna    October 30, 2011   Melbourne, Australia

    @SouthernGirl:  No, well here in Australia you just have to go talk to you doctor to get a prescription. I'm not sure about in America but I assume it's similar. Some people do have bad side effects, but many don't (like us) so I always tell people it's worth a try and if it doesn't work you can always stop.

    good luck, you should be proud of yourself for wanting to quit

     
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    noodle4hd    May 26, 2012   UK

    @J Dubbs:  I second this! "The Easy Way to Quit Smoking" helped me stop 8 months ago and I don't miss it AT ALL! I smoked for like 5 years before that and tried to quit over and over. It got to the point where I was thinking really badly about myself because I just couldn't stop. Then I read that book and suddenly I could do it!

    Just remember, you can do it, you will feel BETTER afterwards than you do now while you're smoking, and the only person who can make you smoke another cigarrette is you! Good luck!

     
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    SincerelyShe    June 20, 2015   Maryland

    Me & the SO actually both recently quit cold turkey. It really has been pretty easy, with the exception of wanting to smoke in the car. Lately I've been keeping a healthy snack in the car like peanuts, and just munching on that while I drive so that I don't think so much about smoking. 

     
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    bdemps11       Southern Maryland

    I'm in the process of cutting back to the point where I'll be able to quit. I've put myself on a schedule. I allow myself to only smoke at certain times during the day (one on the way to work, one after lunch, one on the way home.. etc). I've gone from smoking over a pack a day down to about 5, maybe six if I have one after dinner). Every couple weeks I try to cut another one of those smoke allowance out and substitute gum until I'm over the craving for one at that time of the day. Just regular gum helps me a lot. Good luck!!

     
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    BoiledPNut    April 2012  

    My FI quit cold turkey.  He just chewed a lot of gum for a while.  We have a friend that has one of those electronic cigarettes and she's slowing weaning herself off it.  Good luck to you!

     

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