Post # 1
3 carats” – this was said by a friend of mine recently and I was a bit appalled. I don’t think she understands diamond prices at all, which I guess is understandable if you’ve never really researched it but still. Even after explaining how much a stone can cost, she insisted she wants a high quality, 3 carat diamond…maybe 2.5 carats. It sounded naive.
So Hive….did you have a size minimum? Did you know someone who did? Also, sorry for 2 polls in a couple hours. Just trying to gauge opinions and genuinely curious.
Post # 3
My center stone isn’t quite 1ct. but I’m happy with it. I helped pay for what I wanted, I would never demand a certain size though. That’s a lot of money, I wanted a little more than what he could afford so I payed too 🙂
Post # 4
I didn’t have a requirement. My FI could have proposed to me with a ring pop and I would have said yes.
Having said that, my ring is .75 ct and I love it.
Post # 5
I don’t understand carat. I didn’t want a diamond, I wanted a ring I would like, and that would mean something to FI and I. We bought according to our means, which was very, very inexpensive. I know not all people have the same expectations, and the ring might have bigger importance to some ladies. To me, it didn’t. It’s just a piece of jewelry that I wear when I go out. I take it off as soon as I’m home. So I didn’t see the point of paying thousands of dollars for it, but that’s just me !
Post # 6
Well, a stone I could see without a microscope would be nice, but there was no hard and fast requirement. I have a 3 stone totaling 1.5
Post # 7
I didn’t want a diamond and I prefer smaller more petite stones anyway.
Post # 8
I was that girl! Lol I wanted a 1 ct or 1.5 but had noo idea about diamond specs and prices! So once I realized that I was super happy to get my good quality 1/2 ct diamond ring. 🙂 maybe once she does some research she’ll realize orrrr she’ll just end up with a really horrible quality 2.5 or 3 ct stone!
Post # 9
My center stone is 2 carats which is what I wanted, however it was not my minimum. I wanted at least 1 carat.
Post # 10
I have a small solitaire and it’s not what I wanted, but we are getting it changed to a more intricate pave setting soon – my TCW will still be less than 1ct! I understand having a preference, but to say you won’t accept less than a certain weight? If one of my guy friends proposed and she didn’t accept based on TCW I’d say “good freakin’ riddance!”
I do know a girl who didn’t like the ring she was proposed to with, and so she said no, and – quoted, as she tells it – “save up a little longer and try again.” He really did get her a new one and re-proposed! Then six months later she called off the wedding and pawned the ring. No lie. Some people’s children ….
Post # 11
I didn’t have a requirement. The ring really wasn’t that important to me, though my DH did do a fabulous job and I do love my ering (just over 1 ct). He picked it out on his own and I wasn’t involved at all (other than the fact that he knew that I like round stones).
I think for someone to say that they wouldn’t accept anything less than 3 carats says quite a bit about them…
Post # 12
When we were first engaged, I just wanted a ring he could afford! Neither of us had much money at the time, so when we went to look at rings, I intentionally looked at the smallest rings I could find. It was the marriage and not the ring that mattered to me. DH later upgraded my ring (his idea, not mine), but I was just as married with a small ring as I am with a bigger one.
Post # 13
I told my husband to give me a plain, 2mm, no diamond band and call it a day- I didn’t even need an engagement ring!. He ended up using his late mother’s ring to propose. I’m not sure how big it is, maybe 1/4 ct? I know it’s smaller than 1/2, and I am beyond okay with that. I had some ideas in mind of what I liked, and we did go look together but I am so glad he went the route he did. I couldn’t imagine demanding a certain size
Post # 14
I siad no, but to be honest when we first started looking I had my mind set up on at least 1 ct. But as I looked i found a beautiful canary diamond with a halo that i loved and the feature stone was .75. I would have taken that in a second. And i never thought I wanted a halo. Then as i tried on more and more rings in different settings I realized that the stone size that i wanted changed with each setting 🙂 sometimes bigger, sometimes smaller. and then i saw the prices and couldn’t imagine spending so much money on a STONE. So i ended up not having a minimum and knowing I’d be happy with whatever he got me. Then I ended up with an heirloom ring and neither of us had any choice. It is what it is.
Post # 15
I didn’t want anything larger than a 0.75 diamond or moissy (I didn’t care which) because I think smaller stones look better on me. I like the dainty look.
I ended up getting something slightly over a carat. Whatever – no skin off my back.
Post # 16
I didn’t have a minimum, but I knew I wanted diamonds
. My cluster isn’t all that large as a total carat of .5 but I really love it.
He actually proposed with a .1 carat or something.. a teeny tiny diamond and I said yes. It wasn’t until after the fact that he told me I could pick out my own ring.
I can’t honestly say that I would have been okay with just a plain band with NO diamonds at all, because quite frankly I work hard and I feel I deserve something worth more than the smart phones we replace every year.
The setting really meant more to me than the diamonds themselves, though.