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Racy Post...Lingerie question.

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    tmarie    April 7, 2009   SFValley, So. Cal.

    So my FI doesn't care at all about Lingerie, he says why bother it's all coming off anyhow. I on the other hand love all things feminine: pink, lace, feathers, shoes, silk, ruffles etc... I have been diasappointed in the past by his reaction to a negligee (he just fell asleep!) and I don't want to be bummed on our wedding night, but I keep thinking I'll find something that makes his heart race?

    I get it that he just doesn't care about those things and it doesn't interfere with our love life, so my question is dress up for myself to feel beautiful or just skip it?

    And what are my fellow Bees wearing?

     
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    MissStellar    May 2, 2009   MI

    Nothing.

     go naked. I bet he'd like that!!

     
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    catrelle83    05/09/09   Mobile, AL

    Miss Stellar said exactly what I was going to say!

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    I guess a racy post warrants a racy response...

    What about getting a sexy see-through robe or something that is meant to come off right away?  He might enjoy "unwrapping" you like a wedding present!

    Or, what about lingerie that won't "get in the way" (ie- no cups, no crotch) so that you can keep it on longer.  Like a corset-type thing or crotchless panties or thigh high stockings that clip to the non-underwear belt thing?

     
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    SansSerif    8/30/2009   Lansdowne, PA

    What Miss Stellar Said! and quietly tell him halfway through the reception... See if THAT dosen't spice things up!

     
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    EAQ219    May 22, 2010   Bethesda, MD

    I'd wear some but with the understanding that in 5 seconds or less it's coming off. I believe that your sex life should be as much about making YOURSELF feel beautiful as well as making him feel good.

     
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    EAQ219    May 22, 2010   Bethesda, MD

    Haha rosychicklet, I thought about responding with crotchless panties, too! Glad some one did!

     
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    jenny.j       Ontario, Canada

    Hm, I have a bit of a different opinion...

    If wearing sexy lingerie makes YOU feel beautiful and sexy - do it!  Lingerie is all about attitude, and if wearing it gives you a sense of sexiness and feminine power, then that's the attitude that will come through when you wear it. And I'm SURE that attitude will always get your man's attention. 

     
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    BeachBrideT    5/09   Florida

    Rosy & EAQ, I was thinking the same thing-- what about crotchless-- that way its lingerie that DOESN'T have to come off... he might like that!!!

     
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    rnc620    June 20, 2009   STL

    Maybe you can do body jewels or something... like those little rhinestones you just stick right on your skin. That might be a little different.  I feel you about him not liking it.  My ex was totally not into it and he wouldn't even notice it. After a while I wondered why I ever wore anything beyond cotton panties since he never even noticed the difference.

    I like the idea of wearing thigh highs and no panties though. It's something and nothing all at the same time.

     
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    Shay    September 26, 2009   Connecticut

    I also love lingerie. Why dont you talk to him tell him how it makes you feel. Maybe you can meet at a happy medium, maybe a nude color lingerie.

     
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    tmarie    April 7, 2009   SFValley, So. Cal.

    I have told him, I like lingerie and I wish he did too. So far he's tried to be good about it the few times I've worn it anyway.

    Oooh so many options, love the body jewels (where do I find these?), the thigh highs with a great big bow, nice lacy robe, crotchless painties ( I can't even type it without giggling and now my staff wants to know what's so funny!) Mwah!

    Thanks Bees!

     
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    I agree with wearing if you want to.  It seems like you'll go into it knowing he might not get too thrilled until it's in a pile on the floor.  But you should be happy too.  And besides, if you wearing it, puts you in the mood or better mood, he should realize everyone's a winner at that point.

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    Miss Burgundy    May 28, 2010   Southern California

    I've been trying to figure out this one myself lately- my guy complains that I don't wear it frequently enough, but he just disregards it or falls asleep like yours does when I do wear it. According to my man (when I asked point-blank) he claimed that "you can't just wear it and then not do anything". I am taking that as an indication that guys want to be teased when you're wearing lingirie ;)

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I have one answer.

    agent provacateur. (sp?)

    Check that out and order away!

     
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    ali925    May 23, 2009   Chicago

    i feel exactly the same!  the naked idea is pretty good ;)

     

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