- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
My FH and I (finally) got engaged in March after nearly 6 years of dating. 3 weeks later, his older brother’s girlfriend announces she’s pregnant. Then, about a month and a half later, FBIL and his gf get engaged. They’ve decided to get married this year in a small ceremony (immediate family only) with a small luncheon reception before the baby’s born. They’ve also decided to have a reception next year on their 1 year anniversary — 6 weeks before our wedding.
Both FH and I are annoyed and hurt. We feel like this is inconsiderate on their part (they have a big family and not everyone can make it to two wedding celebrations in a year, especially in such a short time span). I also don’t want to share any of my wedding ideas with anyone in the family for fear those things I think would be special to our wedding will appear at their reception (FSIL has always made things between us a competition). Moreover, we announced our wedding date the night we got engaged in an effort to not crowd anyone else’s wedding (FH’s cousin is getting married in August, my cousin got married earlier this year) and his brother is not giving regard to anyone.
I am just so frustrated. I feel like I’ve "put in my dues" for lack of a better term, and their shotgun wedding is now taking presedence over our wedding. No one in the immediate family was a big fan of FSIL, and now everyone’s one a 180 and acts like she’s the best thing since sliced bread.
Anyone have any advice on others raining on your parade?