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  • poll: Did you cry when you found "the one"
    Yes .. I would never have bought it until I had the "big moment" : (20 votes)
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    A little ... but it had more to do with the price tag $$$$$ than the dress : (9 votes)
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    Nope ... and the fact that I didn't cry scares the crap our of me - did I make the wrong decision : (30 votes)
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    Nope ... I am not a crier in general and had a feeling I wouldn't - but I love my dress : (109 votes)
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    Other (please let us know) : (15 votes)
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    Ms Mini    July 17, 2010   Medicine Hat, AB

    You did not burst into tears when you found your dress!

    I think there are TONS of us out there that didn't - we may like, or even love our dresses, but we didn't shed a tear when we found it.

    It is one of the worst myths out there - you will JUST KNOW when you find your dress, you will CRY, you will SEE YOURSELF walking down the isle as soon as you put it on ... 

    It leads to tons of re-thinking, apprehension, second-guessing, and even feeling bad: There must be something wrong with me, or it is the wrong dress because I didn't have a major emotional outburst when I put it on.

     

     
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    krissycake    November 21, 2009   orlando,fl

    I didn't, and I am a crier in general, but I was very happy about it regardless =D

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    I cried when I found my dress and my veil. I didn't think I would get that feeling or even know what that feeling was until I put in on and knew I never wanted to take it off. But the funny thing is that when I look a picture of it I hate it, but when it's on me I feel amazing and want to wear it all the time.

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    No crying over here!  I'm not really a crier, so I wasn't worried or surprised!

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    I didn't ... even when I tried on the designer gown (that was wayyyy out of my price  range) that I knew was "the one." I was just really happy and giddy, but not emotional and teary.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Totally didn't cry.  I may wanna cry now though, since I'm soooo over the dress.  Its typical of my personality, I get bored easily!

     
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    mhirni    September 12, 2009   Oakland, CA

    I loved my dress, but I didn't have "the moment".  I am not a sentimental person and I tend not to wear my emotions on my sleeve.  I was torn between two dresses, and I chose the one that felt more me.  But, I also stopped looking at dresses.  I think that is the key to not having dress-regret!

     
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    Candy_Nee    May 1, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    I teared up when I put it on with the veil.  As did my mom.  My MOH actually told me another one was "the one" so I initially went with that one.  Then, I realized it was what I wanted and decided to go with the one that got me and my momma all weepy.

     
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    Ms Mini    July 17, 2010   Medicine Hat, AB

    For the record: I didn't cry when I found it, I didn't want to take it off, and I knew it was the right one (I had tried on well over 60 dresses so I was sure) ... but I didn't cry then.

    I did cry when I brought my grandmas to see it before I ordered it (one of my grandma's is 93 - she may not make it until my wedding day, so I had a feeling this might be the one chance for her to see the dress)

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    This is interesting to see... I'm guessing I won't cry, just because I generally only cry when I'm sad or angry. 

     
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    JoJo Bananas    August 21, 2010   Santa Cruz, CA

    nope, didn't cry. i couldn't actually try the dress on, so maybe that was it? althhough, when i picked i up, i tried it on and didn't cry either.  i just had an internal "oh shit" moment.

     
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    thefuturemrsjohnson    April 3, 2010   Whittier, California

    I didn't cry - I was with a group of my friends and I tried on a million - I felt like a fat puff ball and all I could think about was the Stay Puffed guy from Ghostbusters and so maybe I did cry a little at that thought.  But after trying on a million different dresses - ok, so maybe it was more like 30 - I kept coming back to mine.  I just loved the way I felt in it and how it was "me" - very simple.  I wasn't even "officially" engaged when we went, but my guy was out of town for 3 months and told me to get it if I wanted to and so it's been hanging in it's bag for going on a year! I put it on when my best friend from out of town was visiting and I still loved it in August so hopefully in March when I put it back on to get it altered, I will love it still.

     

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    Nah, no crying here.  I just tried on a bunch of dresses and kept coming back to mine.  Luckily it was a great price and fit wonderfully (I bought the sample)  I haven't even gotten that "excited" about it until now that the wedding is getting closer.  I'm just not a person to get crazy-excited about clothes and stuff.

    That said, I love my dress and it's beautiful.  It makes me very excited that in all the wedding pictures I see, no one really has a dress that looks like mine.  That's kind of what I was going for :o)

     
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    otb    December 31, 2009   Chicago, IL

    I teared up a bit, but was feeling something more like relief that I had found it just in the nick of time to get it ordered.  Except it was in a week later, not 6 weeks like they kept scaring me with!

     
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    Lees4308    March 13, 2010   Panama City Beach, FL.

    I didn't!! I don't think I've even cried through this whole experience...I may get teary eyed on the wedding day but it's very rare that I shed happy tears!

     
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    meggyo    September 25, 2010   Chicago, IL

    i was positive that i wouldn't cry, but i did. the dress i bought, i actually didn't even pick out. my bridesmaids, my mom, my mom's friends and i each picked out about 3 dresses and none of them really worked for me. then our consultant picked one which i wasn't crazy about on the hanger. i put it on, and as soon as i saw myself in the mirror (and one of my bridesmaids crying), i knew that i'd found it. it's funny because i'm usually not that super emotional, but whatever works, right?

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    I cried the first time I went dressing shopping, so I thought that was going to be THE dress. When I actually found my dress. it was the first time I cried again since the initial dress shopping day. I had tried on many dresses between finding my dress and the first one, so I KNEW!

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I never got the crying thing. I struggled with my decision anyway but even I had found the dream dress, it would be more a sigh of relief that one more thing is taken care of. I can't see getting that emotional over a dress. Now when the dress arrives if I'm disappointed, then I may cry out of frustration because I'll be out of options with one month to go.

     
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    PinkSparkleGrl    October 3, 2010   Upstate New Yrok

    I don't really cry, but when I tried on "my dress" I broke out into hives. I have tried on a few dresses since and there have been no reaction. I went into to try on my dress again for a fitting and I broke out into hives AGAIN.

    I do not think it is a myth, it certainly could happen.

     

    I will have to get a fan and some champagne to calm my hives down before the wedding!!

     
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    Ex Libris    October 10, 2010   Brooklyn, NY

    I found my dress on my very first dress-hunting experience.  However, I didn't want to limit my pool of choices to the 4 dresses I tried on that day, so I passed on it.  We took a few other trips, but somewhere along the line "that dress" started being referred to as "my dress".  I realized, standing in the middle of David's Bridal, in a gorgeous buy-now-or-that's-it sample, that the first dress was the one.  When we went back to revisit it, my mom burst into tears.  She said she had known all along but she was waiting for me to come around!

     
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    Min    August 21, 2010  

    I had the BIG moment but it was with out crying. My expression changed to giddy and all that and I knew it was the one but it didn't make me cry and I didn't expect to cry.

     
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    monitajb    July 17, 2010   Sacramento

    I only cried because it was 250% of my budget! And the thought of walking out of there without it was too much to handle. I talked her down to 150% of my budget (custom dress shop), and snapped it up. The next day I started an automatic deduction to my savings account just for the price difference on the dress (which was four figures....) Embarassed

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    I didn't.... and I AM a crier! i knew it was going to be a long hard process and literally, they all "looked great" and the sales people would be like, "Gasp, that's amazing!" Well, ya, but it was just another dress.

    The one I got literally made me light up, feel like I was running through a field in an Estee Lauder commercial, and skip in the store. lol

     
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    thebriz    May 2010   Brooklyn, NY

    I may tear at some point in the wedding, but when it comes to things like dress - no.  My MOH was happier than I was just to go shopping.  Don't get me wrong, I am glad I picked the dress I did, and maybe on the day all dressed up, I'll be a bit misty (doubtful), but that stuff just doesn't do it to me.

     
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    ms.puppyjacks    March 2011  

    I thought I was a crier, but didn't.  When the consultant zipped me up, but before I saw the dress on me, I had the biggest smile and imagined myself marrying my FI.  Then, as soon as I walked out to show my MOH & mom, the expression of my MOH's face sealed the deal.  I was SO HAPPY, that I skipped back to the dressing room! :)

     
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    marlie    7/31/10   nyc

    i didn't cry and i'm a crier.  it's making me feel slightly insecure about my dress too.  

    for me the problem was that i LOVED every dress i tried on (and there were lots).  i hated having to pick just one.  my dress was the one i kept coming back to so i went with it.  i do have a picture of me in it, the day i bought it, with a smile so big it actually looks painful.  when i second guess my dress, i try to look at that pic and remember the feeling.

     
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    MrsK2be    November 15, 2008   Ohio

    I didn't cry when I found my dress.  I was too busy jumping up and down with pure excitement!!!!

    I'm a sad/worried/anxiety/guilt crier.

    But in moments of joy - I am usually glowing with happiness and lost in complete bliss - no tears for me. Also, none at my ceremony.  A couple crept up during my dad's toast, but that was it.

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    I didn't cry and neither did my mother. We are not really criers, but we all knew that it was "the one". I may cry when I have everything on together or on my wedding day but it would seem more real.

     
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    skibobrown    July 31, 2010   CA (wedding in Bar Harbor, ME)

    I just smiled like crazy, and I kept staring at it in the mirror. I'm still loving my dress 6 months later though, so I'm pretty confident that I made the right choice!

     
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    Tears came to my eyes before the dress was even zipped up! When I came out into the main room, my best friend started crying as well.

    But I'll have to say that I knew it was "the one" when I had dreams about it every night for the seven days before I actually bought her!!

     
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    thefuturemrsgibbs    June 12, 2010   Northern California

    Ummm... no I didn't cry when I chose my dress. I didn't jump for joy either. I actually felt a little nervous about it. It was a couple of sizes too small. The good thing is that my aunt is a seamstress and she says she's going to bring it out and convert it into a mermaid style dress (it was a princess cut). I'm worried that it won't look right. The good thing is that my aunt and my sister bought it for me. It was out of my budget. I was just so excited to buy my dress I mean everyone keeps asking me if I have my dress yet. I felt pressured to buy a dress. But honestly unless it gets altered I still don't have anything to wear yet...................................... Wish me luck bees please!

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    I teared up, but it was mostly due to seeing my mom, auntie, and MOHs tear up once the veil was on and I had decided it was the one. 

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    Nope, I just got really freaking excited. :p

     
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    guffee    June 26, 2010  

    i didn't cry. i just got REALLY REALLY happy!! i couldn't quit smiling and my face just lit up! im absolutely in love with my dress and i didn't shed a single tear! i definitly know its the one because now im very biased when i see other dresses. im always comparing them to mine and nothing is ever better than mine. lol.

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    I said other because I didn't cry, but I can bust into tears at the drop of a hat. lol. I still love my dress!

     
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    LittlestBirds    July 24, 2010   Seattle, WA

    I didn't cry, and actually never expected to - the myth I had heard was that your mother is supposed to cry, and you're supposed to have a feeling that it's just right. I definitely got both of those!  She almost had to step outside. Here's what I emailed someone when I picked my dress:

    "I tried it on again on Monday and I knew the second I put it on. Hell, I knew the second she pulled it off the rack. I've tried on 50+ dresses and not one other has made me feel that surge of happiness. I just glow when it's on. It feels right, it feels comfortable, it feels me. It makes me feel like I want to marry [FI]."

    I'm on board with y'all, however, that any of these myths are destructive, because how could anyone predict what their emotions will do in response to a garment? Why torment yourself with how you felt about your dress, as though it's as important as picking your spouse? No one should be made to feel that they're "supposed" to feel anything.

     
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    msjellyfish    September 5, 2010   Bay Area, California

    I am a 2 dress bride.

    With Dress #1, I didn't cry. I liked it, but I think it was more my aunt and my mom's reactions that made me get the dress. I regretted it soon afterwards.

    With Dress #2 (the dress I will be wearing), I tried it on several times before I took the plunge and bought it. As I was walking out of the salon with my parents, I started to cry because i was so happy. And I'm not a crier. So it was definitely an affirming moment. I'm really happy.

     
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    twalila    May 2010   Ohio

    I am a crier in general, prolly about 2-3 times per week, but no I didn't cry when I found my dress. 

    I did however cry on my first dress shopping trip.  It was maybe the 4th or 5th dress I tried on and while I liked it, I didn't love it.  But then the sales lady plopped that veil on my head, and I went from wearing an OK white dress to totally looking like a BRIDE!  That's when I started to get all teary eyed!!

     
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    TPHoliday    May 23, 2010   Seattle, WA

    I didn't cry, but I didn't want to rip it off like all the other ones and I kept swaying in it... a very good sign.

     
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    Nexus-6    March 12, 2010   Portland

    I didn't cry, and I'm a big emotional baby. I think it's because I never found a dress that I felt was *~*~PERFECT*~*~, but I had exhausted all of my options so I just sucked it up and picked one. Whatever, I love my shoes. Those are cry-worthy!

     

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