Post # 1
Some people I know are having a halloween party to celebrate their engagement.
They are having a destination wedding in Mexico in December.
So there Halloween/Engagment party has a silent auction to raise money for their wedding!!! Am i the only one that thought this was tacky? I dont know, i mean they rented a hall and there will be dancing, they have encouraged people to wear costumes and the best dressed gets a prize….but why not just call it a halloween party…??
Post # 3
People have jack and jill parties or stag parties and “sell tickets” as well as do a 50/50 raffle, have entertainment, etc. Maybe they should be calling it a jack and jill party as opposed to an engagement party.
We had about 60 people at our engagement party (family and close friends/bridal party). Most of them gave gifts, which in turn went to the wedding, but we would have never had an auction or a donation basket going around!
Post # 4
They should scrimp, save, budget, and diy their fingers to nubs like the rest of us poor folk. Lol
Post # 5
Guests are under no obligation at all to finance any part of the wedding. If the couple can’t afford something, don’t have it, but never make your guests pay for anything.
Post # 6
The first time I have ever heard of a Jack and Jill party was on Weddingbee. I know she doesnt read any wedding wesbites so she doesnt know about them either. All our friends run in the same circle so they wouldnt either….simply put, even if she called it a jack and jill party all her friends and family would just see it as a money grab….
Post # 7
For Pete’s sake: skip your morning lattes! brown bag your lunch! start a dog-walking service, a babysitting service, a weekend cleaning service, or drive old ladies around! have a garage sale! start an etsy shop for all those booties you crochet! acquaint yourself with ebay and sell that collection of antique candlesticks!
There’s like a million ways to make a buck in this world that DON’T involve alienating your friends.
Post # 8
I’m not a fan of this idea.
Post # 9
i think this is just weird!!!! i am a bride on a 5000 budget my fiance and i are 23 will be 24 when the wedding rolls around in june. ive recently lost my job so now even more stressed about wedding mney but to supplement i am babysitting and making cakes on the side!!!! we both are kids of single mothers and do not want to burden them with wedding costs so if there is a will theres a way with out begging for it
Post # 10
I really don’t like people selling things, collecting money, or anything to finance their wedding. I think that you should have a wedding that you can afford, even if it means you don’t have diamond centerpieces.
Post # 11
We are having playbill programs and are offering “add space” for those who want to add a message to the back of it for us and are only asking for a small “donation” for our life together (AKA pay off the wedding so we can get on to the good stuff) I think it serves a purpose and I have already been told that a few people are excited to come up with something to put in the program and it gives those who couldn’t make it a way to still be there.
Post # 12
@kfricke89: Grammar police says: Add=to give more, Ad = shortened form of “advertisement”.
If you’re going to advertise your ad space to your family/friends you wouldn’t want to spell it wrong, and spell check WON’T pick up those kind of mistakes.
Post # 13
@MissAsB I totally agree. A wedding is not only a chance for you to decalre your love infront of friends and fmaily its also your first opportunity as future husband and wife to take some major responsibilty…and with weddings alot of that revolves around money. I am of sound mind that if you cant afford to help yourselves out (aka pay for the wedding) then maybe you shouldnt be getting married.
Hubby and i took on extra jobs, stopped eating out and scrimped and saved. It was a true test of character and we paid off the whole wedding BEFORE the wedding…letting us get to the “good stuff” after. Now we are saving for our honeymoon.
Doing something like a fundraiser or selling ad space on your programs to get money for your wedding to me is just stating you arent old (mature) enough to budget or take on other tasks to help YOURSELVES pay for YOUR wedding.
Post # 14
Do not have a wedding you can not afford… no woman should have to be in the position where she has to stoop to selling sponsorships or tickets or otherwise go around with your hat out looking for help with something like a wedding. It’s not a house, it’s a party. I don’t want to be judgmental but the whole concept of a Jack and Jill… just doesn’t seem right. But everyone is different I guess.
I saw one wedding last year where the program announced the wedding was “brought to you by [wedding vendor A]!” She also had all her napkins stamped with the vendor’s logo. I know the bride and she was brought up well, so I’m sure she was embarrassed and I can’t imagine how she agreed to such a thing! Someone must have put her on the rack with social/family pressure to have a “proper” blow-out party 🙁 At the cost of her dignity.
The feminist in me thinks this kind of pressure wouldn’t exist if the wedding was viewed as the groom’s responsibility… but since it’s usually women doing the planning, it’s OK to make us feel like failures if we don’t entertain to the max….harumph.
Once you embrace it, it can be fun figuring out how to cut things! There’s nothing more satisfying than practicing the art of the good deal.
Post # 15
I sell jewelry as a side business and once had a bride contact me asking for free jewelry in exchange for my business name advertised all over her wedding. She said she was trying to do this with all of her vendors so she would essentially have a free wedding. I declined…
Post # 16
Your dream wedding should not be somebody elses Dream. I had my dream wedding all within budget..was it hard at times..ABSOLUTLEY, do i sometimes wish i spent more AB SO FREAKIN LUTLEY (I wanted a photobooth!!!! waaahhhhh) BUT i didnt and we ended up being 4000 under budget!!! which is AWSOME. WE spent the savings on a mini-moon some fun stuff for us and the rest (3000!!!) went into our honeymoon fund!
Everything should be within reason. Fundraising…sick….sponsorship….weird. Its YOUR day!!