Post # 1
Happy New Year Bees!
Gosh, where do I start? It has been a really strange year of being engaged. I am no spring chicken and this is not my first time being married, but still, from the moment my fiance’ asked me I have been excited about planning a wedding! I LOVE weddings! Always have, always will. My fiance’ not so much. Sometimes, I think he could care less about the wedding…if I say anything about it..he will always say “Of course it’s important.” BUt honestly we NEVER talk about it anymore.
Due to finances and other life issues..we have changed our actual date 2x and I refuse to change it again. We are either getting married in Dec or …… I don’t know what. I just don’t know how to have this conversation with him. I feel like he is irritated or annoyed and so I’m wary of talking to him about it. I don’t know, we have such great times together and I love him to death, but it sometimes feels like he asked me to marry him and then regretted asking? I am just so confused!
Well, like the title says I am rambling…my brain isn’t even clear. AHHHHHH!!!!!!
Post # 3
@The Torpedo Factory: IMO women care way more about the wedding than men, generally speaking. I know that’s certainly true for myself and my fiance. I’ve been planning the entire thing and he’s shown up to help when absolutely neccessary (or when there was free food). Other than that he just doesn’t care. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about getting married, he just doesn’t care about all the details. We’ve discussed it and in his view, once we were officially “engaged” that was it for him. Sealed the deal. 100% comitted. So anything beyond that, to him, is just “girl stuff”.
Post # 4
I thought may FI regretted it too. Then I just spoke with him & he reassured me. I realized ALL these emotions just came pouring out after he proposed & not all are ear to ear happy. I am reading a really great book that helped with the gazillion feelings I have.
Anytime I feel something is off I say something. 99 percent of the time it’s just me. 🙂 My FI will talk basics with me but anything detailed about the wedding I tell my aunt. Lol
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
My FI just can only handle so much wedding talk at one time! I’ve learned to sort of just forge ahead and before making a big exective decision say “what do you think about this, is this ok?” He does kind of care about the “logistics”… timeline, guest list, he really cares about the music and somewhat about the food. But anything decoration/invite/etc is just outside his realm.
Maybe try to just plan on your own a little bit, then show him some things and see how he responds? Eventually you may find out what he cares about as far as plans and what he is fine leaving totally up to you.