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Oh yes, I've been there, done that. It is super awkward but thank goodness he didn't see you!
This isn't as bad as a setting for this to happen, but I ran into my ex at my bachlorette party. He was bartending at one of the places we were at and at first I honestly didn't recognize him until I was in line for the bathroom and he came barreling past me, rude as could be and almost knocked me over (it's a tight hallway to the ladies' room). There I was in my veil and penis coutour and I run into that D bag. He must have been pretty upset that I was getting married to someone else to almost knock me over. It made me really upset so we just left.
nothing recently as an adult.
but i remember my college bf and i had broken up. i was at the university gym looking like POOP--and he walked in towards the weights. i collected my stuff and ran straight out.
@Eight6Eleven: OMG, your ex almost knocked you over?? I can't believe it how horrible!! Thank goodness you broke up with him!
Ran into my ex once. I was home from college about two years after we broke up, and the only summer job I could find was as a gas-station attendant. My first day on the job, he came in to get gas. He seemed glad to see me and said "Hi" and asked how I was doing, but all I could think was how ridiculous I looked in my ugly work shirt!
@HeyKaraoke: So that was your HS boyfriend? How awful!!
I still haven't run into my HS boyfriend at all since we broke up. Not that I want to, but I just think it's odd that we haven't crossed paths at all. Granted we both moved to different cities and probably only go home for holidays, but it' snot like we come from a big town and we have mutual friends.
The ex I call the [bleep] [bleep] [bleep] was in the audience of a show I was in once, less than a year after we broke up. The stage manager pulled me aside and gave me the option of not performing. I did, but it was really hard. It was a very intimate show, so I had no problems seeing him while I performed. He was less than fifty feet away the whole time, and since it was outdoors with no stage lights, I couldn't even depend on the lighting to blind me to the audience.
My worst nightmare these days is the same thing happening while DH is in the audience. DH has told me on numerous occasions that if he ever meets that ex, he *will* take the [bleep] down. I need to have a talk with him about it soon because the current performing season is about to begin, and I'm told that the ex shows up once per season.
@GreenEyedMoon: Oh wow, so it's pretty much guaranteed you will see him? That stinks! Especially since you are on bad terms. Good for you for continuing to perform!!
@moderndaisy: There's a good chance that it will happen at some point, yes, and it's quite possible it will happen this year. That being said, as far as I know, he didn't show up last year. I'm told he was there the two years before that, but that was while I was living in Japan.
@GreenEyedMoon: So, does he come to purposefully watch your shows or is he just interested in the actual show whether you're in it or not?
I run into my ex from college quite a bit. We set up two very good friend of ours (one of his best friends and one of my best friends), so anytime they have a function, we run into each other. He's always really nice, but I can tell that his wife hates me. Not that he makes her feel at all comfortable with the situation, but I try to be as nice as I possibly can to her since I know she feels threatened. We've both clearly moved on though and for the better. We actually most recently ran into them at a wedding we were both at over New Year's Eve. That was a little awkward!
@2PeasinaPod: The shows happen at a very popular festival. He's friends with several other people involved with it. I was at a complete and total loss as to why he chose to go to that particular show at the festival, though, since there were a dozen others going on at the same time, and he knew I was performing in that one. I was so angry.
If it happens again, it will be more accidental than before. I've changed characters and am no longer associated with any one show in particular. I perform in the lanes now. There are over 10,000 people at this festival on any given day, so he might not run into me if he came. However, my character is very popular and visible, so if he wanted to find me, it would be fairly easy for him.
It happened to me, last month a couple of days before Christmas. I was grabbing a couple of last minute things at the mall with FI. We were in the checkout line and I was using a Groupon...they had issues with the terminal at the store so they had to call for help. "Help" was my ex...my FI didn't know it was him and he went out to wait in some chairs just outside and the ex started talking to me. Just things like, asking if I still lived around there (pretty sure he knew I don't) and of course I felt him looking at my left hand and my engagement ring.
Thankfully I was fairly fixed up that day. I think I handled it pretty well and I told FI once we left who it was. It shook me up a little just because I had not run into him in over a year, probably more like a year and a half. I am the one who came out on top in that deal. I quit letting him use and abuse me and I never looked back, and now I am marrying the love of my life.
My Ex and I were engaged while I was in college and our breakup was pretty bad. He cheated on me and then tried to win me back, but I wasn't interested. I started dating my current SO shortly after we broke up and my ex would call and try to disrespect our relationship so much that I had to change my phone number. Before I switched my number he tells me that he has baby. He slept with some chick while he was trying to get me back and he ended up getting her pregnant. CRAZY! He ended up marrying the girl and having more kids. One time she hacked into his old email, found my email address and started harrassing me.
The last time I ran into my ex it was totally unexpected and I was def freaked out. I had been avoiding him and his wife for years. I was at a golf tournament and talking to some friends before it started when I heard somebody shout my name. It was him. He ended up trying to talk to me later in the day and I walked off. He asked a friend of mine to give me a message and tried to figure out where I worked now. At the dinner after the tournament his wife shows up to eat with him and all I can think is she's going to and start something. I am not the Jerry Springer type, so this whole thing is beyond me.
He recently moved and before he left town he called one of my best friends to see if I would meet up with him. He is not the brightest crayon in the box. I have been with my SO and soon to be FI for the past 4.5 years. Of course I refused and thought he was crazy. I still get random messages from him on facebook bc apparently he found me there. He had his shot and blew it. I am so happy with my now SO and I dread ever running into my ex again.
@GreenEyedMoon: Oh my gosh, I have a story like that. It was the first show I starred in (major role, onstage for most of the time) and guess who sits SMACK in the front with his new gf? Wow.
Thankfully I didn't notice him until halfway through the show but when I did was soooo mad. I mean, who does that? Front row, really? We were most def. not friends I don't know if he sat there to show support or just to phase me.
I went through the rest of the night ok and it was actually one of my better performances to this day. My girl friends who were there told me he fumed out of the theatre before curtain call was even over. Weird?
@2PeasinaPod: THat would be awful to attend a wedding that your Ex was also attending! I almost asked a bride to be once if my ex was invited to her wedding, then thought better of it since I didn't want to stress her out. I would have gone anyway so it was pointless to ask.
@Mrs. Myrtle Beach: I did the same thing as you!! I didn't talk to my Ex, but I waited until we left the restaurant then told DH about it. It was affecting me so much I just couldn't keep it in. I didn't say anythign at dinner though adn did my best to act natural. DH said he didn't notice a thing!
@future.mrs.c: His wife harasses you?? That is so messed up! She should focus her energy on her husband who is stalking you!
@SimplyChic11: What is up with your and @greeneyedmoon's ex's?? Why would they want to sit and watch you perform? That is so annoying!!
@GreenEyedMoon: & @SimplyChic11: Seriously...your ex's need a smack upside the head!
Wouldn't it be nice if there was an island far, far away where exes went to live after the break up of our relationships with them?
Sense of entitlement? I don't know lol. It's really super annoying. This guy was and still is super full of himself. I feel sorry for whatever girl he ends up with.
@SimplyChic11: Ditto! Our exes are apparently just [bleep]ers. But we already knew that.
I seriously kind of WANT him to run into me again this year. I dare him. I've turned into one of the more visible characters at the festival, someone people actively go looking for because I'm just that entertaining, and I'm hilarious while I do it. I don't look my best, since my character is almost always covered in mud, but I still look pretty darn good, and my character looks spectacular. I've come back from Japan, found a great job in my field, have started winning at life out at the festival (to the point where my second job is now to teach other people how to be as awesome as me), and I recently married the love of my life. If he sees me this year and sees all that, the [bleep] will probably just choke.
Haha as messed up as it was at the time, my ex broke up with me while he was living in China for a year, and there were still three months before he came home at the time we broke up. So although our families lived close, I managed to avoid him.
Then he started at the same law school I was at in the fall, so I ran into him constantly. I was in my third year, he was in his first, so it only lasted a year, but we were at ALL the same events, it drove me nuts. By the time law prom came, I was already dating FI, who is rather imposing (especially compared to the ex), and FI happened to walk up to the bar while the ex was trying to talk to me, so I had to introduce them. It was awkward all around, even though the ex's face was priceless.
@moderndaisy: wow, that sounds awkward, esp while trying to make nice with your SO's boss!
I once ran into an ex when my current husband and I first started dating six years ago. it was at an art gallery. I was so thrilled because I got to parade my new boyfriend around in front of him (my ex was a really awful boyfriend, so I was happy to rub this in).
I actually run into him pretty often though. a couple of years ago, I saw him playing pool all evening with a girl who was obviously his date. she was really pretty and I could not help but feel just the tiniest pang of jealousy.
two weeks ago, I ran into him and got to tell him I'm married. his boring old life had not changed at all. I win.
LOL, I shouldn't care - but I do!
hahaha oh my gosh. I can totally relate. I haven't ran into my 6 year ex EVER...and I thank God for that because I don't even know what I would do. If I was with my SO I would be fine but if I was alone, I think I would seriously run away...hahah
F***. Isn't it perfect that this happened right after this thread...
Months ago, when a friend of mine got engaged, I offered to do the calligraphy on her invitations. I was really excited for her and was happy to give her that favor.
Well, she just emailed me the guest list. It looks like one of the people I'll be addressing an invitation to for her is none other than [bleep] himself and his girlfriend (or wife??? She suddenly has his last name).
FML.
I dated a guy in law school, and we broke up during my third year, but it was totally amicable. He just wasn't the guy for me. I had started dating someone new and moved to the same town my ex lived in (not my hometown, but my ex's). Anyway, I took an internship in a county just north of there in the S.A.'s office, doing criminal work, and my ex was a lawyer working for a civil law firm in said town.
So lo and behold, he caught a case in my county, and I ran into him in the upstairs hallway of our itty bitty courthouse. I was carrying a crap-ton of files, and I kind of did a double take, nodded, and kept on my way. Anyway, my brush-off must have offended him because I got a long-winded email later! His reaction was pretty funny, and since then we have kept in contact by email on occasion, usually when he needs questions answered about criminal law.
I'm actually happy that we can be congenial, because he's a good professional contact!
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And to make it worse, I was meeting DH's boss for the first time out at dinner. We were waiting for our table to be ready and out of nowhere my ex comes barreling down the stairs from the upstairs bar. Right after him was his pregnant wife. I had literally just shaken hands with DH's boss and was starting to make small talk when this happened.
Luckily, it was really crowded and we were seated right afterwards. My ex and his party (turned out to be a bunch of his college friends I recognized) were seated on the opposite side of the restaurant thank goodness. I don't think any of them saw me, so no awkward encounters - I was just shaken for a minute.
Has this happened to anyone else? It's not like it's a big deal - but it really threw me for a loop. We broke up about 8 years ago and obviously both moved on, no hard feelings - no feelings at all, but running into him is still like a shock in the system!