- 2 years ago
So this is a random post. wasn’t sure where to post it exactly
.. but I am curious to see if anyone has experienced this…
“A false memory is a fabricated or distorted recollection of an event that did not actually happen. People often think of memory as something like a video recorder, accurately documenting and storing everything that happens with perfect accuracy and clarity. In reality, memory is very prone to fallacy. People can feel completely confident that their memory is accurate, but this confidence is no guarantee that a particular memory is correct.”
My guy and I were talking and I brought up a memory that he cannot recall.. not overall he does have a pretty bad memory.. and I have a pretty goodone.. but in this instance.. the more I play this memory in my mind the blurrier it is getting.. and I wonder.. does this happen to anyone?
I can think of friends that I have noticed do this from time to time.. talking about a memory in which i was involved.. and having different ideas of what actually happened.. or if it happened at all!! I’ve had relatives say stories of me before too that I cannot recall.. kinda weird to think about now that I learned about “false memories”
In my guy’s case I vaguely recall him telling me that he kissed someone way back hen he was with his ex-girlfriend.. I brought it up (not in a fight or anything to make him defensive) and he can’t remember us even talking about that, or ever doing that..
My first thougth was.. “ok you don’t have to hide it.. if you already told me.. and I am not mad, (since he seemd very remorseful in my memory)”…
But he trully doesn’t remember! and now it is bugging me! The only things he remembers telling me was of two “one night flings” he had while on a break (of a few weeks or so) with this girl…
So now I wonder if that’s what he told me, and my mind jumbled it up into a “kiss/while together”…
I do recall my ex kissing someone at a bar while on a break with me… so now I am wondering if I mxed the two uip in my head, and the more I go back and replay it, the more blurry it gets and it is driving me crazy *bangs head on wall* haha..
At this point I am not even mad about the kiss, since in my memory he seemd to regret having done that… (IF IT EVEN HAPPENED AT ALL..), but more so the fact that he doesn’t recall ever doing that and tells me and even swore he never actually cheated, or remembers kissing someone at a bar.. or party.. (and he’s not really into PDA.. so it makes sense)
but why!! anyone can relate???
I am just curious how rare of an occurrence is this.. anyway vent done 🙂