- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I’m in a sticky situation regarding my guest list.
Backstory: I moved out out of state last year, but I’m back permanentely now. One of the first people to get a hold of me once I got back in town was an old “friend” – well call her Jane. Jane and I have a troubled past as we didn’t like each other in the beginning, but then sorted that out and became friends. I never considered her a great friend as she was mainly a drinking buddy when I was into going out, etc, but I feel like that’s all she ever wanted to do. We even had a few arguments where she was basically using me or not so nice, etc. she had even gone so far (when drinking) to rub it in my face that my FI used to have a thing for her before he and I got together (YEARS ago). Even so, I always enjoyed her company as are have tons in common and my main issue with her was her alter-personality that comes out when she’s drinking (and that’s almost every time I see her! I think she has a problem but that’s another story).
Despite all her drama, she is a nice girl when sober and she also happens to be my neighbor.
Abyway, since moving back I have hung out with her (and her husband) exactly ohe time, haven’t seen her since, and last I heard from her she stopped responding in a text message conversation she initiated. It’s been about 2 months.
We mailed our save the dates about 2 weeks ago.
SO what this is all leading up to is that she texted me today saying “I see your save the date on “x’s (mutual friend) fridge! Very cute! Where’s mine?” followed ten minutes later by “sorry I didn’t mean to make that awkward”.
I KNOW She knows that this is absolutely rude (she’s been married, she should know better!)
However, FI and I did go back and forth many many times on whether to invite her -she’s aware of the wedding and was interested and even offered to help if needed the time we hung out since I’ve been back – but she is kind of drama if you know what I mean and I was afraid she might cause a scene at my reception.
I am conflicted on what tO do. Regardless I’m going to be honest and tell her I didn’t send her a save the date because I hadn’t talked to her in a few months…but do I invite her after all or leavE her out?
She is fun and can be a sweet girl when she isn’t drunk (sorry, it’s the truth) but I hate That she backed me into a corner. I’m NOT only just considering it because of her text, but because I hadn’t decided in the first place. If it matters, we do have room in the guest list / budget.
Eta: the time that we did hang out when I moved back (the first and only time she has me since I was engaged) she did sort of fish around to see if she was going to be invited and I did in fact, imply that she would be. However at that point I DID expect to invite her as I didn’t know we were going to lose touch over the next few months.