Post # 1
This may seem like a silly question, but I’d like some opinions. Put together, my fiance and I have 5 grandparent’s who are either divorced or widowed. We are inviting all our single friends and relatives with an "and guest"…but what are we going to do about our grandparents? I can’t imagine any of them would bring a guest (we don’t know them to be seeing anyone), but if we are letting everyone else bring one is it rude not to even give them the option? My mother says I should just write "and guest" and not worry about it…but if I send that to my grandmother who I know hasn’t dated anyone since my grandfather passed 10 years ago, doesn’t that seem ridiculous?
Post # 3
We are not including “and guest” for any of the single older guests who are not dating anyone (and none of them are). Same situtation – grandma has been a widow for 20 years and does not date – she will come with other family members to the wedding and she would think it was weird if the invite included “and guest”.
Post # 4
We gave +1s to our older guests- not because they were dating, but because some of them are reluctant to travel alone.
If you know they will have someone to drive them or help them get around, then they don’t need a +1. But if they are going to have to travel, don’t like driving after dark, don’t drive at all, etc. you should extend the +1 or arrange their transport.
Post # 5
I would NEVER write "plus guest" for my grandmother, as she has NEVER wanted anyone other than my grandfather, and it would just make her sad that he wouldn’t be able to attend. If you have a grandparent who doesn’t want to travel alone, perhaps you can call him or her and say that s/he is welcome to bring a friend along if s/he doesn’t feel comfortable traveling alone or has a friend s/he really wanted to attend with.