Post # 1
I am constantly amazed at how different my FI is from my ex. Froggy treats me like a princess and everything is done with my happiness and wellbeing in mind. My ex was horribly abusive and I will leave it at that (don’t want to spoil my mood thinking much about him). However I guess I thought they would have something in common: interests, goals, hobbies, likes, dislikes, etc. The only thing they seem to share in common is their gender. It constantly amazes me!
So my random question is: Are your FI’s/SO’s/ DH’s more like your ex boyfriends/husbands or are they polar opposites?
Post # 3
They are alike in that they’re both very smart successful, funny and well spoken but the similarities end there. DH is very physically attractive and my ex was not (I dont’ care about looks, I go for personality). They come from different backgrounds – my ex came from a very wealthy family and DH does not (although they aren’t poor or anything – just not millionaires). And while I can’t really complain about how my ex treated me, DH treats me way better which I never even thought was possible. He doesn’t expect me to act a certain way to impress his family and friends like my ex did which was really annoying. I never felt that the real me was good enough, with DH I feel free to be myself at all times.
Post # 4
They’re complete opposites. 🙂
My ex was more concerned about himself. He was sweet and loving in the beginning, then completely turned.
FI is so loving and caring. Very considerate as well.
There’s a million differences between them both, but the most important is that I feel 100% complete with FI and have so much more confidence in our relationship together.
Post # 5
All of my exes were the same. My sister likes to say that I like them “big and dumb.”
Fi, on the other hand, is the complete opposite and were are perfectly matched.
Post # 6
They are only the same in the fact they both have said they disown me because I have never seen the Goonies… Other than that they are 100% different.
Post # 7
My most serious ex and my FI have some similarities in likes (both are into gaming, though not hardcore). But other than that, nothing at all is the same. Personalities are completely different.
Post # 8
I don’t have any true exes (meaning I don’t count anyone i dated at the age of 13 an ex) but I guess my BF is different from them. Maybe you can add the option of those who are still with their first loves.
Post # 9
@Koala Bear: Ok added an option for you. Thanks!
Post # 10
I’ve had three serious relationships (including my husband) and they are all very different.
I sometimes can’t even believe I dated the guy I was with before I met my husband!
Post # 11
Nope. He is the complete opposite from all of my exes, thank god!
Post # 12
my ex was big bloke, loud arrogant, a heavy drinker too (nasty drinker) smoked. had his good points he would spoil me rotten, but money isn;t everything and i much prefer affection to material possesions. all that said he’s the father of my son and for that i do care for him to some extent, and he’s a good dad
my fi…. where do i start, not a big drinker (a soppy happy drunk when he does drink, major selling point for me) he’s romantic, loving, treats me like a princess, doesn’t have a temper in the slightest… great with my son. and he’s so affectionate
in away i should thank my ex he truely showed me everything i wanted in a man… the opposite of him lol.
Post # 13
Ummm. They both like horror movies and heavy metal (though FI’s taste is far better in both). But that’s it.
FI is perfect, ex was an abusive, manipulative, whiny manchild douche. He’s the only ex I’m not on speaking/good terms with because of his behavior towards the end/at the breakup/after the breakup.
Post # 14
I’d say all my past men are different. It wasn’t conscious though. With my bf however, I could say that I was more aware of what I wanted when we got together. Its called conscious dating? Also, I have changed/grown too so it’s natural that I’m with this person and not that person.
Post # 15
They are similar yet different.
They both love raves, electronic music, drinking, the beach, movies, parks, walks… small things like that. (all things I love as well though)
My ex FI was in jail though, lied a lot, was a cheat, took off for days at a time and I had no idea where he was…
My FI was in the Marines, was cheated on instead of the cheater, calls when he gets off work to let me know he’s on his way home and I never have to ask where he is.
Post # 16
Hmm. There’s one ex I have that doesn’t fit the bill but the other two do share some of the same characteristics with FI. A gentle spirit, caring, somewhat quiet and shy but still able to have fun and joke around.
They don’t act the same in a relationship, though. I felt like I never truly knew where I stood with the other two, and with FI I have never doubted a day in my life how much he loves me and is committed to me. Plus the exes were kind of douchebags in their own ways. Lol.