Post # 1
I was just reading the “What not to say to a pregnant woman” thread and I was thinking that some of those incredibly rude things had been said to me – and I’ve never been pregnant! I want to hear the rudest comments people have made for no reason. Here’s mine:
“What happened to your face?” – a co worker on a day I decided to go makeup free.
Same coworker asked me if I was gaining weight around the holidays. Um… Ok? Thanks for the confidence boost.
What are yours?
Post # 3
I was having lunch in a public outdoor space once, and had finished my sandwich and was munching on carrots. Some old lady at a table near me said, “You should eat oatmeal, it’s good for weight loss and more substantial than carrots.”
Me: “Excuse me??”
Lady: “I’m just saying, you’re a little… husky, and you’re eating carrots for lunch, and you might want to try oatmeal instead of carrots.”
Post # 4
@littlemisst08: Wow. I hate unsolicited advice. I would have definitely said something.
@BruinBeeMPH: I was killing myself working long days and then spending evenings in the hospital. I went to work one day with my hair up instead of down and pretty (like I usually try and make it look). A coworker said, isn’t your hair naturally wavey? I said, yes. She said, oh, well what happened to it??
I was told that my FI could have afforded a “much nicer ring” for me. We are common law and call each other husband and wife. We have been told that common law “doesn’t count.” My SIL, who I hate, has called me fat to my face (I somehow refrained from punching her out).
Post # 5
@BruinBeeMPH: I once went on a lovely walk down to the water’s edge. I was having a great time observing the fishermen standing on the pier. I was about to walk back home when a man came up to me and said, “you should eat less salt. It makes you retain a lot of water weight.” WTF! Needless to say, I still think about that comment from time to time and it makes me smirk.
Post # 6
I hate the “you must have it made” comments. I used to drive a 10 year old Saab in great condition that I loved to death. I loved especally the comments from the students at the community college who would tell me that I was a “rich girl” and didn’t know what it was like to suffer…
…yeah at the time I made 25k in a place where rent was 700 a month in rent, driving a 10 year old car, paying off student loans after being in fostercare for much of my childhood. I was lucky, but I was not a prissy rich girl who they could steal from.
Post # 7
I was in line at the local BBQ place last week picking up lunch, and some gentleman behind me asked if I went to the gym. I replied no and kinda looked at him funny. He proceeded to tell me my stomach was very flat and I look like I worked out. I said no but thanks very awkwardly. Most of you might take that as a compliment, but I was a little creepd out that he was looking at my stomach in the first place. And I am not a 6 pack by any means.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
My aunt is obese and, quite frankly, crazy. The only reason I bring up her weight is because of what she says to me pretty regularly (for how often I see her). I see her about once every few years, and every time I do, ever since I was about 15 up until my actual wedding day, she comments on my “tight little body.” No one was talking about me, no one was talking about weight, anything like that, she just says it as part of an observation. She smiles as if she had just told me I had pretty eyes, but no… just that phrase… “tight little body”. Creeps me THE F*CK OUT every time it happens. Couldn’t she just say “nice figure” or anything that is a less creepy alternative?
Even that aside, I’m not fit at all. I have a thin frame, and I look ok under clothes, but I am a textbook example of skinnyfat. So it makes me think about my weight/fat percentage when we were previously talking about, like, the football game. Ugh.
Post # 9
“Ya know, I really hate (tattoos/weird hair/dark makeup/leopard print/pointed nails). I’m not talking about YOURS, of course. No offense.”
Post # 10
LOL not that this is directly rude but I think it sounds that way after awhile – or at least it’s very awkward to respond to
I work with someone who very often responds to things I say with “Really?” It’s almost like I am lying? and it is so strange!
Me – coming back from getting lunch soaking wet with an umbrella: “Wow it just started pouring rain out of no-where!”
Her: “What did you do this weekend?”
Me: “Not too much, got to relax a little”
Post # 11
Got a bit of a workload put on my desk – I have had two coworkers ask me “are you sure you can handle all of that?”
I hate when people question my dedication or intestinal fortitude to push through a difficult task – ‘I got it, thanks’
Post # 12
Me: “Oh the SO and I went to see movie X this weekend and after that, we worked out. Mellow little weekend.” (basically something completely casual and unrelated to marriage/engagements/etc.)
Random annoying person: “Oh really! Now where’s the ring?”
Post # 13
I have another one: when my mother demands, rather than requests, I do something.
Just got a text from her: “Call me after work. I’m serious.”
No, I’M serious: I’m not 10, you dont get to tell me what to do, you’re probably drunk, and I don’t want to listen to you carry on about all of your self-inflicted money and relationship problems my entire hour drive home from work.
Post # 14
I work in customer service, and I tend get offended if a customer critiques how I’m doing my job. It’s always on the tip of my tongue to say “I’ve worked here for six years, I know what I’m doing,” but most times I just smile and say some smart comment politely. I seriously get a weird sense of joy out of proving them wrong, but I still get a little rattled from it. I’ve gotten better about it over the years, but there are just some days…
I also find it rude when my co-workers hound me about having a baby – just because I’m married does not mean I have to automatically pop one out! Or if I’m not feeling well it turns into asking if I’m pregnant. Am I not allowed to feel like crap once in awhile?
Post # 15
I have a coworker who I am friendly enough with, but sometimes she really has no tact. Around Christmas time I had been really sick, and out of work for a few days. i went back before I felt better, because it was our busy time at work, and I didn’t bother with makeup or making myself fully presentable like I normally do. She sees me and makes a comment about horrible I look without makeup and is everything ok with me?
Also, this same woman comments on the amount of grey hair she can see while standing above me. I have the odd grey thread of hair in my dark brown hair, and I just find it so rude she comments on it! To top it off, SHE has mousy brown hair for the first like 6 inches of her hair, and the rest is all blond, and she NEVER wears makeup to work, never dresses nicely. Pot calling the kettle black, on the one damn day I don’t wear makeup, or pointing out my greys when she has 6 inch roots!?
Post # 16
Today at work:
“People judge you on your appearances – you should wear more makeup. Otherwise people won’t take you seriously”