Post # 1
My mom died in January and while our relationship was strained (very much so the past few years, I still haven’t really cried over it), one thing that we’ve talked about since I was a little girl was using some of the lace from her wedding veil (she made her own veil and dress 50+ years ago when she married my dad) to make flowers for my own wedding.
So my dad brought down her veil and its been sitting in a bag on my dresser where I just try not to look at it. Today I finally decided to just get the lace from it and get it over with (seriously I’m intimidated by an old veil?).
I was sitting on the couch carefully sniping at the stiches she had made in order to get lace I needed and I had a very zen thought (not sure because I’m not a religious person). I’m separating the beautiful part of the veil (the lace), from the part I don’t want (the tulle), and that’s what I’m trying to do with the memory of my mother, take the beautiful parts and keep them while putting all of the things I don’t want to remember, that I don’t need to remember away.
Anyway this struck me and I wanted to share that.
Post # 2
renwoman: Wow, that sounds really transformational. It’s nice that you these moments to act this out, sort of make it real.
Post # 3
renwoman: Wow, that sounds really transformational. It’s nice that you have these moments to act this out, sort of make it real.
Post # 4
renwoman: that is a beautiful revelation. Sometimes we need physical objects to deal with emotional stuff in our head. Im sure whatever you make out of the lace will be beautiful
Post # 7
renwoman: That is such a beautiful thought.
Post # 5
Girl, I feel you. My mom passed away in September. The past 5 years or so have been very very rough. She did not take care of herself- she drank too much, she lived a hard life, she had been through a lot. I didn’t agree with a lot of the choices that she made but she was my mom. I relive the last few days of her life over and over and over again in my head. I have so many regrets but there are also so many things that I was mad at her for and I’ve been slowly trying to throw those out of my memory.
I wish I had my mom’s veil or something of hers (her favorite necklace was stolen about a month before she died) to have with me on our wedding day.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2016 - Equestrian Estate
That is so lovely… I love sentimantal things!! It’s very special that you are able to re-use the lace and make it a special part of your wedding day.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle
I agree with you that to cut away the bad and treasure the good is the way to think of someone that has passed.. Be greatfull you have good memories.. Not a put down but you have a treasure to use on your wedding day and lovely memories to treasure. Good luck and i hope she enjoys admiring the view from where she is..