Post # 1
So, I was recently in a wedding. I was Maid of Honour. During the rehearsal, the minister said infront of everyone “ok *bride*, how do you want your bridesmaids ordered? It goes in order of best friend to most “humble”.
Bride was a little hesitant and he said “who’s the low man on the totem pole?” (INFRONT of everyone, BMs included). There was only myself and two other bridesmaids. Then he said “Well you have your maid of honour, then who?” and so she had to chose and then he kept referring to Tenicia as the “low man” for the rest of the evening : ie: “so once the music cues, low man and the first groomsment enter”
I thought that this was really mean. If it had been me I would have felt crappy. I mean, we all kind of know in life that there are friends that are closer for whatever reason, but calling them out on it? Come on…
Post # 3
Well, that seems like a joke that kind of fell flat…
We had an uneven wedding party, so two of my bridesmaids had to share a groomsmen. So I put the ones that had to share closest to me, and the one that got her groomsman to herself last. So that seemed fair. And it worked out alphabetical, so it was easy to just say “line-up A, J, K” and not put any “ranking” into it.
Post # 4
Yikes…that’s pretty rude. While I understand that might be a normal way of lining the girls up – that joke certainly fell very flat. I just did mine based on how long I had known each one – starting with my sister/MOH and descending from there. It had nothing to do with ranking our friendships and I think that to even joke about that is pretty insensitive! Poor thing.
Post # 5
This is something I’ve been struggling with for a long time. I am thinking about just drawing straws. It would be SO much easier. also, I was in a wedding once, and it was done by weight, the heaviest girl on the inside, the thinnest on the outside.
Post # 6
I just put mine in order of how long I had known the person. You can’t argue the facts, and it doesn’t mean that if I’ve known you less time, we aren’t as close. Just an easy way to do it.
Post # 7
And this is why I didn’t have BMs. I hate the whole concept of ranking people — period!
Every time I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man (lots), it’s been the Maid/Matron of Honor first, and then everyone else ranked by height.
The officiant was making a terrible “joke,” if that’s what it was. Yikes.
Post # 8
I just put my two MOHs first, with my sister closest to me. After that, it went in order of height, shortest to tallest or vice versa, can’t even remember now. It was not important and I was not about to rank my friends.
Post # 9
I didn’t put anyone in order either. We had the GMs line up tallest to shortest, then I told the girls “Go stand beside a guy!” and that’s how it happened. I did offer my pregnant cousin the chance to walk out last and take a seat in the front row as I walked in (since people would be looking at me not at the altar) and then she could stand up to rejoin her escort for the recessional.
Post # 10
Yikes! Not fun and super awkward situation 😐
@Gemstone: I think that’s a great way to handle it!
Post # 11
@meetmethere2013: that was really mean.
Post # 12
Wow, that was really mean and rude. My maid and matron of honor will stand next to me (in that order) and the 3 bridesmaids will be lined up by height tallest to shortest.
Post # 13
My goodness that is so mean! My maid of honour is my best friend from my childhood, then my younger cousin who grew up like my baby sister (as i dont have any sisters), and my other very close friend. I consider all three of these girls to be sisters to me and wouldn’t dream of ranking them. Maid/Matron of Honor got the title just because that’s been our agreement for years and years..
Post # 14
Wow. My DOC told me and Darling Husband in private that that’s how they should be lined up, but the three of us were the only ones to ever know. If she hadn’t told me that, we would have just done it by height. It was really rude for him to say that in front of everyone.
Post # 15
hopefully he was making a bad joke!
Post # 16
I am just going to rank by height too