- 6 years ago
People (guests) are really starting to frustrate me! I know some of you guys can empathize with this.
First of all, I didn’t get several RSVPs back. We’ve contacted most of these people. But, I still feel like I am not getting anywhere with some of them.
FI’s uncle told FFIL to “just put us down for five”, when FFIL called to ask if they were coming, since they never returned their reply card. I alotted for them to have five seats, but the wife can’t make it due to work and their foreign house guest got sent back to her country a few weeks ago. This leaves three people that can possibly attend out of their family (FI’s uncle and his two cousins). There is a strong possiblity that one of the cousins will not be able to take off of work. Why in the hell would we pay for FIVE people when possibly only TWO are coming?! FI’s uncle also has a grown, married daughter who just had her wedding six months ago. She never replied, either. That is super frustrating because the etiquette should be fresh in her mind! Anyway, we found out that her DH will most likely not be able to leave work, as he just got a new job, and she is not planning to come without him. Why couldn’t she just RSVP “no”, then?! Ugh! FI’s uncle wants us to put his daughter and son-in-law down as attending, despite this, though.
I want to just bang my head against the wall! I am having FFIL call them back later this week and let them know that this is do or die and we need a final, exact number.
Then, one of my cousins RSVP’d that her entire family of five would be attending. I put them in the seating chart, made favors for them, etc. Saturday, at a family party, I mentioned something about the wedding and she casually inserted that her sons wouldn’t be coming, after all. Umm, when was she planning to tell me that her kids weren’t coming and I could save the $100 it would take to feed them?!
Another family member who has RSVP’d “yes”, told me that he probably can’t come, either because now he’s got to take a trip two weeks before the wedding. Okay.
People are so inconsiderate. If you RSVP “yes”, and don’t come, that is money down the drain! The venue will not let us pack the extra food up and take it home, so it’s wasted and thrown in the trash. If you RSVP “no” and come, or bring people who weren’t invited, then there is less food and seats for the ones who actually did what they were supposed to!