- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So this is just a rant.. but i cant help but to be annoyed/hurt.
my FSIL and I are pretty close (we talk nearly everyday).. she moved 3 hours away recently with her new boyfriend and they are “engaged” themselves (i write “engaged” because one day they are, then the fight and arent, then they are again, then im really not sure whats going on) anywhoo. she didnt come to the first appointment i made for my bridesmaids to try/find their dresses because she was meeting his family. I rescheduled for her for 2 weeks later and she skipped again because he was coming to see her that weekend (at this time they werent living together) this alone made me upset, but whatever.
my bridal shower is august 18 and my sister/moh is sending invitations this week (if she hasnt dropped them in the mail already) our conversation was on wedding topic and the relevant part went like this:
Me: are you coming for my bridal shower?
her: when is it? and what is it?
me: the 18th of august. you should get your invite this week 🙂 what do you mean what is it?
her: um what are you gona do?
me: have a bridal shower duh! lol am i not getting the question? im confused!
her: strippers? lol
me: no lol thats a bachelorette
her: oh. lol k than no. haha
me: why not?
her: idk, but ill go to the bachelorette
me: well im not having strippers for my bachelorette just so you know. i think id rather go wine tasting
her: k im down
i didnt text back after that.. im kinda mad/sad/annoyed.. she isnt making ANY effort to come to the things that are meaningful, but made a big deal about being part of the wedding party (i didnt want too many bridesmaids and although we are close, there are people who i wanted to chose beside her since my numbers were limited) she didnt come to try on dresses, even when i rescheduled for her and begged her to come to because it meant a lot to me and was an experience that i wanted to share with everyone, and now, to me, the second most important experience to my wedding is my bridal shower that she is also not attending.. but she wants to come to the bachelorette (a PARTY) and the wedding (a PARTY)? why cant she come to the things that MEAN something? not just THE PARTY aspect of it? i know the wedding isnt actually a PARTY, but in her eyes, the reception is and she is just forced to attend the ceremony because its her brother. i know im just babbling, but i cant help it! for my bach party, my sister is renting a limo and were doing wine tasting.. if she isnt willing to share any other experience with me, then why would i want her attending the bach party when that limited seat could be for someone who actually does want to be an ACTUAL part of my wedding experience? ugh! 🙁 i know some of you (maybe even a lot of you) may think im being ridiculous, but these are feelings i cant help 🙁