Post # 1
FI’s parents and sister were coming in town. While they were not staying at our apt, they would be coming over. I asked FI to clean the bathroom. He wiped down the sink and said he cleaned the toilet. When I went in there, the toilet did not look that clean. So I asked him about it. He said he cleaned the outside but that the inside doesn’t need to be cleaned b/c it just get ‘peed on!’ WHAT!!! I said there was a reason why stores sell toilet brushes! Please tell me your SO/FI/DHs do things like that….so I feel better about my future marriage living with a disgusting slob 🙂
Post # 3
@bridgetdarling: My FI grew up in a messy house, I grew up in a clean house. It’s been a challenge to get him on my level but he’s getting there!! He throws his dirty clothes by the cellar door because that’s where the laundry is, instead of putting it in the basket upstairs. I only had to ask him four times to STOP DOING THAT. He’s finally learning that the living space is not an extension of the bedroom lol. Socks everywhere, shoes everywhere. He’s definitely making progress though.
Post # 4
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@bridgetdarling: Men cannot clean, I would have zero faith asking DH to do what you asked your FI to do.
He always says the little pee dribble/splashes around the bowl aren’t from him…. ok well then who are they from?!? The roomate we don’t have, the guests that haven’t been over since last time I cleaned? *RAGE*
Post # 5
Yes, FI’s idea of cleaning the bathroom is to wipe off the sink and empty the trash…that’s it. He also thinks that if he washes dishes (we don’t have a dishwasher), then he gets credit for cleaning the kitchen. SMH!
Post # 6
Haha DH once cleaned the toilet with the brush but without any of the disinfectant toilet cleaner stuff. I kind of … lost it. I screamed at him, and I believe the phrases “shit brush” and “shit germs” were used several times. I apologized afterwards, and I’m not too proud of it, but I CAN say that he has always used the disinfectant since then 🙂
Post # 7
@bridgetdarling: haha my husband cannot clean. Period. I do all the cleaning because if it were left up to him, I would be living in the most disgusting house ever!
Post # 8
Ugh. I think a lot of men don’t know how to clean because, as kids, they were never taught to recognize what “unclean” looked like (whereas moms often complain to their daughters, in my experience, about the state of their own homes, or friends’ homes). And very few of them were required to help with the cleaning! Hopefully this will change over the next few generations.
In the meantime, here’s my solution: $60 every other week for a full apartment cleaning from the local “eco-green” lady. I say $60, but what I really mean is “priceless.”
Seriously, if we both cleaned in the same way, or both had the same standards for cleanliness, that would be one thing. But barring that celestial alignment of stars, I refuse to be the one who does most or all of the cleaning. Sooo… $120 a month for perfect future marital harmony! So what if it means we have to skip a few nights out at a restaurant? I count it a great deal!
Post # 9
My husband was in charge of bathrooms while cleaning, he didn’t like it. His compromise was to pay for a cleaning person twice a month. Love it!
Post # 10
“Men cannot clean”
Seriously? We’re writing off an entire gender here?
My DH works from home and does 90% of the cleaning, and does a damn fine job – without me ever asking or nagging. Giving men a free pass just because they are men is super unfair. And, as my husband points out, really offensive to the men who actually bother to pull their weight.
Post # 11
I typically don’t put FI in charge of much outside of vacuuming. When I ask him to clean the bathroom he swirls the brush around the toilet without wiping off the rest of the toilet. He doesn’t see the need to mop or clean the bath tub. According to him the tub just gets cleaned every time we shower… I do most of the cleaning but he does most of the cooking so it pretty much balances out.
Post # 12
This is where I’m lucky. DH was in the military, so even though some bees insist guys don’t clean, my guy will get at things with a toothbrush to make things sparkle….which is going to come in very handy since we’re moving and have to leave our current home 110% perfectly clean.
Post # 13
I must be one of the ‘lucky’ ones. My FI cleans about as much as I do (AND does a great job!!!!!!) We’ve only had one ‘fight’ over the pantry. He went grocery shopping and just threw everything in the pantry. I went to grab something out and shit started flying everywhere. I was SO pissed. I am completely ANAL and it should’ve been put away nicely. Ever since that fight, he practically alphabetizes the groceries. Hey, whatever it takes 😉
Post # 14
@jny1179: Funny, since I grew up in a messy house and he grew up in a clean house… yet he can’t clean on my level. I can’t stand mess. I moved out of my parents house 6 years ago. I don’t want to my place to resemble that one! Haha.
Post # 15
Ahh you ladies are making me feel better! Either by commiserating with me or letting me know there is hope! I can’t stand it to be super cluttered. I will sleep better if our room is straight (am I weird?) FI def has the ability to clean but just doesn’t do a great job. He cooks a lot and goes to the grocery store (which I hate doing), so maybe it evens out? ha
mchitt329: Ahhh pee dribble is the worst. I step on it every time without fail. Like my socks are a magnet for it!
Sidenote: Whoa MommaJenn28 that is a lot of bling in your pic! Gorgeous.
Post # 16
@iarebridezilla: stop it! you made me laugh out loud at my desk with your comments! too funny.
@bridgetdarling: OMG, at least he will admit that the outside needs cleaning, DH doesn’t believe he drips. So I bleach the hell out of the bathroom and he complains about the smell, one day he will figure out the cycle…but i like the smell of bleach, its clean!