Post # 1
Surprise shower invites don’t mention that its a surprise! Shower invites have no registry info. Surprise birthday for me not a surprise bc the invite once again didn’t mention it being a surprise. Oh, what do you do when a bridesmaid has fallen into money issues but won’t accept any help? In other words they need to order their shoes and this one bm can’t afford the $40 at the moment. FI and I offer to help and she won’t accept. End Rant.
Post # 3
@Willow1991: *hugs* I had issues with my shower invites too (friend who sent them out inadvertently left several people off the list, among other problems), and it was so hard not to think I could have done a better job myself (I’m a control freak). It helped me to remember that I am lucky to have such wonderful friends who put in so much effort to host an event for me. And, now that my shower is today, I’m just happy and excited and don’t care about the logistical snafus anymore. I’m sure your shower will be wonderful!
Post # 4
@Willow1991: I understand the frustration. No one on FI’s family RSVPed until literally the RSVP deadline. A few claimed that they had trouble with my grandmom’s e-mail, but she also provided a phone number. I think it’s funny that it was only her side that had trouble yet no one else did.
Post # 5
I haven’t said anything bc I know all of the bm’s have a lot going on. But I just feel like, Dang what else could get messed up or forgotten? And the BM who won’t let us buy her shoes is worrying. I kind of don’t know what to do about that. Have a great Shower!
Post # 6
I had the same problem with the shower invites. The woman who planned it is a dear and the shower was beautiful, but my mother and I just about had a cow when we saw the invites. Not only did they not mention a registry, the location address was written in marker and almost illegible. (My FI and I don’t live together and each had to cut back a few years ago, so have a lot of very specific household needs–over the years I’ve collected nice pots and table linens and a few other things, but we need a lot of the basics, so we really needed people to know about the registry). It was a church-based shower, so my mom and aunt asked their friends to spread the word about the registries. It worked out beautifully in the end, with only one non-registry gift–a lovely and very useful baking dish set.
Hang in there, OP!
Post # 7
I would probably focus on the fact that 1) your BMs are trying to throw you a surprise shower 2) someone is trying to throw you a surprise birthday party 3) your money-strapped bm is spending what money she does have on your wedding.
Sounds like you have pretty awesome friends.
Post # 8
Just wanted to give you a hug this morning and tell you it will all be okay! 😀