Rant-in laws unsupportive

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
Member
376 posts
Helper bee

@Mrslovebug:  Have a massive hug, that’s all I have to offer I’m afraid, but it’s sent with love xx

Post # 4
Member
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m sorry about their reaction.

Are you sure that is why they gave you the “I guess” though? Maybe it’s because you’re still in school? Are you all OK financially?

I have a dear family member who only yesterday mentioned how sad she is because they can’t keep up financially and in the same night mentioned how she could be pregnant for my spring wedding.

I can’t tell you how sad her comment made me.

Post # 5
Member
1436 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Mrslovebug:  Inlaws suck sometimes. I come from the same background, I’m proud to not have followed in my families footsteps, I was the first to finish a post secondary education. My inlaws disapprove of my family (they are upper middle class and view anyone using social assistance with disdain). I’m not certain how they really feel about our pregnancy because I haven’t seen them since we announced.

Post # 6
Member
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrslovebug:  I’m sorry. It does suck having people like that in your life. Everyone is happy for us except my FIL. It’s too long of a story to get into what a stupid jerk he is, but when we showed him the tests he was like, “I don’t know how to read those.” So MIL said, ‘it means they are pregnant.” He just said, “Oh.”

The only other thing he has said baby-wise is when he texted DH and said, “Is that baby here yet? I need to teach it all the stuff you were incapable of learning.” He hates the fact that DH took a “gay” job, as he so eloquently put it, as a music teacher and not a pipe fitter or welder or something. Yeah, he’s a super winner of a dad *eye roll*

Maybe he will come around after the baby is born, but I’m not holding my breath, and I really don’t care. That baby is going to have my dad as one hell of a grandpa and some great grandparents that are, well, great too.

Post # 7
Member
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrslovebug:  Congrats on your pregnancy!!! What an exciting time in life. DH & I are currently PG with our first baby and its such an amazing thing to be going through. I’m so sorry you didn’t get the reaction you were hoping for from your IL. I actually had a hard time sharing with some people because I didn’t want to deal with an unfavorable response, but so far I’ve been pleasantly surprised by everyones reactions. I can totally empathize with you feeling like your IL judge you because of where you came from. Although my situation isn’t the same, I’ve certainly felt judged by them also because of my “home life” while growing up. They’ve made comments in the past like, “she obviously doesn’t know the meaning of family since she comes from a broken home” – ouch! 

Best of luck do you and your DH through your pregnancy! You two deserve all of the love and support you can get. 

Post # 9
Member
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m so, so sorry.

Post # 10
Member
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Mrslovebug:  this is suppose to be a joyful time in your life. Don’t let them get to you! You have overcome so much and deserve respect. There will always be mean ppl and sadly you can’t escape these but keep your head up!!! 

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors