RANT: Just want this wedding to be over with…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just tell people you don’t want to lose weight. That you’re happy with what your at. Ignore them

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am right there with you! Everybody seems to be butting in during the home stretch here (twelve days to go) when they seemed perfectly content to say “Whatever you pick will be fine” for the past year. Gah! I have paid for/planned/made everything myself and NOW you want to give me advice? All of the girls at work keep saying it will be worth it, so I am clinging to that small hope! Hahaha! Good luck 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsNewDay:  Ugh, people are seriously such a pain in the ass.  I don’t know what it is about weddings that makes people think that they have the right to interject their unasked-for opinions at every turn.  A married friend of mine just told me that when she got married, her mother insisted that no one would have ANY fun at their wedding because they picked a sucky DJ.  FYI, that wedding was the most fun wedding I’ve ever been to. 

It doesn’t matter what other people think or what your mom thinks.  Yes, you want to entertain your guests and treat them with hospitality.  And you are doing that.  But you can’t please everyone with every little decision (Old Aunt Rose won’t eat mushrooms – does that mean you can’t offer an appetizer that has mushrooms in it?).  It’s your wedding.  You do what you want, within reason, and with your guests in mind.  But it’s not your duty to cater to everyone else’s whims and desires.  Your wedding, your way (for the most part).

As for the weight thing… it’s a shame that in our society women’s bodies are viewed as public property.  Public property to comment on, criticize, praise, or even touch.  It’s your body, and you have every right to put these people in their place.  That doesn’t mean you have to be rude — but you can (and probably should) let you know that their comments are inappropriate. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

OMG I HATE the weight comments. I keep getting them from my mom. Seriously? I have 10 months until I get married and I bought a dress that fits me now, so why do you keep acting like I need to lose 20 lbs?

Sorry you have to deal with this. You are totally not alone.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You are SO close to the end! Congrats!

(And do you have kids? I get WAY more comments about my weight now that I’m pregnant than I ever did before the wedding!)

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsNewDay:  I completely relate.  I’m pushing 30 myself and my metabolism is SO not what it used to be.  I’ve recently lost some weight, and the people in my office all think it’s okay to comment on that.  I get that they’re trying to pay me compliments, so I try not to let it get to me, but asking what pants size I wear now is NOT appropriate, people! 

You shouldn’t *have* to talk about it to anyone if you’re uncomfortable with it.  It’s your business, and your business only!  Whenever people comment on my body in ways that make me feel uncomfortable, I Just don’t respond.  At all.  I don’t try to be nice, I don’t say thank you when they compliment me in a back-handed way, and I don’t engage them.  I change the subject.  “Wow, you’ve lost so much weight! You look great NOW!” is met with “Have you finished the report on XYZ?” or something equally irrelevant, so that they know without me having to say, that my weight is not on the table as a topic of discussion.  And if someone ever asks if you’re SURE you want to eat that… they’re inviting you to tell them off.  Stand up for yourself, and they will back off. 

You can’t let this get to you so much that it diminishes the joy of your wedding.  Your can’t let your weight have that much power over you, and you can’t let these a**holes influence what should be one of the happiest times of you life.  Their thoughts and comments are inconsequential. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@MrsNewDay:  TELL THEM HOW YOU REALLY FEEL!!!!!! LOL. I love ranting posts. I dont have anything to add (not that you asked for it) but I love the outburst. Posting it here keeps you from blacking out on folks daily!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@MrsNewDay:  Same here. The only person that knows about my struggle is FH because he sees the “I can’t seem to lose weight” tears. I also have a desk job nd it is definitely difficult, but don’t let it ruin your wedding fun. 

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