- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Ladies, I’ve needed to rant about this for awhile now. I haven’t because it wasn’t so terrible that I couldn’t just shake it off. Well, yesterday it got a lot worse and I have officially had enough and want to rant and move on.
I have had a pretty good wedding planning experience, up until I added my flower girl. My flower girl is a doll, but her mother is a Momzilla! From the moment I asked her daughter to be my flowergirl, I have had nothing but a hard time from this mom.
My first experience with her was when I asked her what her budget was for the wedding. How much was she willing to spend on a dress for her daughter? She told me $60 and I was completely fine with that. I looked through Etsy and found dresses for $20-$35 bucks, well under the budget so she had room to buy her some shoes also. I sent her the links to the dresses on Etsy and she replies back to me with “I think those are pretty, but I’d like some for a lot less money.” ….. Uh, ok? So I told her to go and find dresses that she was comfortable with their price range. She sent me a ton of pictures of these dresses that didn’t fit any of the ideas I had sent to her. We eventually found one at Kohls for about $15 that works just fine.
After she bought the dress, then it became about all these little details that you could possible think of for a flower girl. She told me that her daughter wanted to wear a tiara in her hair, I vetoed that idea because I had already purchased a flower that would tie in with her hair and would be gorgeous on her. Then she started asking me how we would incoroporate all the colors of the wedding into her dress, asked me a million times if she would be carrying a basket down the aisle (NO, she’s carrying a single flower) and then complained about having to find shoes and how it was killing her budget.
When she brought her daughter over to have her try on the whole ensemble, we couldn’t get her to do anything. Not show me the dress, not put the flower in her hair, no put on her shoes. Nothing. I started to get worried, if she’s acting like this now – how is she going to act on the wedding day? So I added a second flower girl to the wedding – because of this and because I also cared a lot about this other little girl and wanted her to be a part of our special day too. The original flower girls mom started to get all mad at me and the first thing she asked was “Well is this other little girl going to outshine mine?” WHO CARES?? No one else is going to be focused on either little girl but their parents. Then she got all mad and said “I can’t afford to make any changes this late, I can’t have any curveballs like this.” First off, I had never asked her to spend any extra money than was necessary and adding this second little girl was of no concern of hers. So once I settle with her that I wasn’t asking her to change anything, she goes and texts my FI and asks him NOT TO TELL ME that she texted him about the issue – and she continues to complain to him about what I’ve done and has him re-say everything I already told her. Just for attention.
After that happens, I hadn’t spoken to her in a couple months. Then I go to invite her to the bachelorette party to avoid any further drama, only to find out she defriended me on FB (which she claims to know nothing about) . I got irrationally pissed at this and texted her to find out if she was even going to have her daughter at our wedding still. She gets pissed of at me, calls me overcontrolling and paranoid and a control freak. I yell at her about all the stress she put me through this entire time…. and at the end of it all, I found out it was all because we didn’t let her daughter have a tiara in her hair. Apparently it upset her “daughter” (really? Her daughter was 3 when we told her that. She was barely paying attention, and she is four now. She would have forgotten and I doubt she even understands she’s in a wedding) and she was mad that I upset her daughter.
Ugh. So her daughter is getting a tiara in her hair (which is against what I wanted in the first place) just so I can avoid the rest of this drama.