Post # 1
I could kill my OH sometimes. Long story short we’re getting married an immigrating in the same week so you can imagine the amount of organisation needing done. We wrote out a to-do list each and because mine was a little longer (bridal things he couldn’t do) I finished work a couple weeks early to get things done. Every day I scratched a couple of things from the list and have made steady progress.
He’s just finished work and gone to his parents for a week, I assumed to still be ticking a few things off as he went but no…..he’s just spent two days fishing on his own, with no internet so can’t do anything to help me.
Today 4 things have come up that were on his list and have now run out of time so I had to do them and where is he….on the golf course!!
He’s not back for a few days so I’m basically having to work through his list for him while he swans back just in the nick of time to walk up the Aisle and get on the plane!
I know he’s not doing this maliciously, he just does everything in his own sweet time and it often means that I end up doing it because either he leaves it to late or its easier that stressing about the fact he might leave it to late.
Has anyone got a similar issue and if so is there anyway of training them to improve! I’m going to end up treating him like a child to get things done and I hate it.
Post # 3
Usually it’s me acting like your SO. : FI is the one who wants to get things done, I procrastinate.
Lists and reminder notes/emails/texts work for me, because if it’s something I don’t want to do, bugging makes me push it off longer. But… guys and girls might be different in that regard. :
Post # 4
My Darling Husband is the same way. I gve him three things to do and they don’t get done until the very last minute. Somehow he always pulls it off but I don’t know how. I’ve explained to him how much it really stresses me out (both by snapping at him at the time, and calmly later on, lol!) and I think I’ve finally gotten through to him. I’m also very honest with him and say “Okay, we’re having a dinner party on Saturday. I need you to clean up your stuff/mow the lawn/do whatever by Thursday night so I’m not freaking out on you Friday while I’m trying to vaccuum around your stuff” (or whatever the case may be). And I always give “deadlines” a day early just to give some buffer time and then I can say “sigh okay honey, if you get it done by tomorrow afternoon I suppose that’s okay, but you’re really stressing me out!”. It works for us and it’s improved the last-minute-itis a ton!
Post # 5
My Fiance is the same way. No matter how many times I tell him something needs to get done.. He is going to do it when he wants and not before. Oh well. I would just talk to him about how it bugs you and tell him that normally this wouldnt be as big of a deal but you NEED to get x,y, and z done before you can go.. or you cant. I know how stressful this must be, on top of a wedding. But things will get better, and you will be less stressed. Just remember boys will always be boys… eww I know lol OH and I found that you have to tell them things need to get done at least a few days before they really do need to be done. I think from now on that will put you at ease a little more.