- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Ugh I just have to get this off my chest. It’s been brewing for … years. This is going to probably make me sound like a terrible person, but I am just SO….SICK…AND…TIRED….OF….PEOPLE….LIKE….THIS!!!
I’m really not trying to offend anyone or judge anyone. I’m just venting about obnoxious people who have been in my life and I’ve recently cut out not because of the way they live their lives but because of how they treat others who DON’T live their lives this way.
I had some friends who have been very traditional since graduating high school. And by traditional I mean having every little detail of their life mapped out perfectly and never waivering from it or hesitating or messing up or doubting anything and then throwing all of their perfect little happiness in everyone else’s face and then critisizing other people who haven’t been as fortunate.
(and, yes, ok, now I’m critisizing them, which, basically is the pot calling the kettle black, but this is a rant so I’m allowing myself to be hypocritical for a few moments).
It’s like as soon as that graduation cap is tossed in the air: Step 1) move away to college. Step 2) Join a frat/sorority, drink yourself stupid, cheat on homework/tests but smile and pretend you studied real hard and make mommy and daddy proud. 3) Meet your SO — that “casual friend” who comforted you after your one little “one night stand” slip up or the “oh so difficult” internship. 4) Graduate, somehow, with honors. 4) Get a kick ass job because daddy knows someone who knows someone who owns a business. 5) Get engaged to said SO. 6) A year later, buy a house with help from mommy and daddy and maybe even grandma and grandpap. 7)A year after that, have giant, huge, obnoxious wedding with frills and ribbons and princesses and 37 bridesmaids because “i just have SO many friends!” (and pretend that knowing SO many people is stressful even though, once again, everyone except you and your SO are paying for this lavish event). 8) Two years later, it’s time to have a baby, and then little brother/sister two years after that!!!
GAG ME WITH A PLASTIC SPOON. I mean, honest to god, if you want to be a stay at home mom or a house wife or a career woman with kids or WHATEVER, that’s fine.
But I’m bitching about these PEOPLE who do all of this 123, 123, 124, “everything was so easy for me because I worked hard and anyone who doesn’t have what I have must suck and be lazy.”
These “friends” I used to have would judge and critisize anyone who had any other plans than those mentioned above.
I mean, if you were an “undecided” major or “liberal arts” or went to a community college or, heaven forbid, dropped out of college, they’d stare at you like you had 6 heads.
If you weren’t engaged by the time you were 22 or 23, there was obviously something wrong with you.
And if you didn’t know what you wanted to do with the rest of your life or wanted to travel the world instead of have kids or whatever, they shied away like you had leprosy or something.
Sorry. Seriously, I don’t want to judge or offend anyone but I’ve just been really hurt by these people who claimed to be my friends for so long but then started shunning me and talking shit behind my back because I didn’t want to be the Brady Bunch.
I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being a “traditional” family or person but … sigh. I just don’t understand why they have to be so condescending and nasty to me and my other friends who AREN’T….