Rant -take it back

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
Member
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Jadegreen:  Whatever you do, don’t get married and think that will fix everything. Please consider finding someone who will treat you like gold, and then WANT to get you gold for your finger.

Post # 3
Member
3195 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Jadegreen:  

Just because marriage takes work, it doesn’t mean that there can be no romance. My husband and I have been together for nearly 8 years and married for 4 of those years. We still send loving texts every day, go out on dates and have a passionate connection. We have had our tough times but the love and romance is always there. 

A ring is not a marriage. You shouldn’t have to “beg” for a ring if your boyfriend wants to marry you. I also find it worrying that you seem to be the only one who is interested in getting married. 

Be aware that a ring is not going to fix underlying issues. This situation sounds very unhealthy and quite frankly, you are not ready to get married if you are focusing purely on the ring. 

How can you be so sure that your issues will be “fixed” within two weeks or a few months? What are you doing to work through those issues? It takes two to make a relationship work. Problems are not just *poof* gone in an instant like magic. 

Post # 4
Member
6356 posts
Bee Keeper

amiona:  “A ring is not a marriage. You shouldn’t have to “beg” for a ring if your boyfriend wants to marry you. I also find it worrying that you seem to be the only one who is interested in getting married.

This. I would definitely try to work out your relationship before getting engaged and ESPECIALLY before getting married. 

Post # 5
Member
689 posts
Busy bee

Jadegreen:  You are by no means a selfish brat because you want a ring. Its normal to get a ring when getting engaged. Just make sure he is proposing for the right reasons. Hope everything works out well for you.

Post # 6
Member
7243 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Jadegreen:  Maybe you guys would benefit from relationship counselling. You don’t mention what his issues are but remember that broken relationships, outside of abuse and cheating, often have causes on both sides and require compromise in order to fix the problems. 

 

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