(Closed) RANT! Tell me I'm right to be annoyed!!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What a brat! And I mean the other girl, not you! I think you have every right to be annoyed. Hopefully your true friends will see the difference in a wedding and an engagment party. A wedding is much more important. I would try not to let it get to you…easier said than done but take the high road and don’t stoop to her level. Trust me, the people who want to be there for your day will make sure they are there.

Post # 4
658 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Well, I can’t blame you for being upset by the whole thing. I would be too. But please don’t let it ruin your big day/night. The people that care about you will be there and perhaps since you do live in a small community, people may be able to attend. I know it doesn’t make things better but I would hate for this to effect your special day.

Post # 5
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would be annoyed, particularly because she is invited to your wedding, so she obviously knows that a wedding is taking place. That’s not fair to your friends, and she put them in a bad position. But honestly, you sent a save the date five months ago, and a wedding is much more important than an engagement party. I’m sure most of your friends would rather be at your wedding. 

Post # 7
4783 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Wow! That’s incredibly rude on her part. You only get ONE day, and yours was clearly aleady planned. 

However, call her up and see if it’s a mistake. She may not have realized the date she picked. 

Post # 8
1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Have you talked to her? Maybe she didn’t know. Asking her to push it a week (or even a day) forwards or back isn’t that hard.

Post # 9
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Maybe they didn’t get their save the date? If they did, that’s pretty awful of her. Personally, I would *NEVER* leave someone’s wedding early for another party. I’d run it by her- “Hey, do you realize your party’s on our wedding night?”

Post # 10
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I usually tell people they’re overreacting, but in this case I totally think you’re right to be annoyed!

Post # 11
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes it’s annoying. However that being said I doubt most people will leave a wedding to go to an engagement party! She is setting her self up for failure and hurt feelings. Hopefully other friends speak to her or let her know they wouldn’t be able to make it if it is for that day.

Post # 12
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater

Did she invite you to the engagement party? Or did you just find out through friends? If she invited you she might not have realized the date. If not then she knowa and she’s just a b-word. I would totally feel the same way as you. That is just wrong. 

Post # 13
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Considering she has gotten the STD for your wedding, I agree that I’d be annoyed. As a guest though, wedding CLEARLY trumps engagement party if I were a mutual friend. As a mutual friend I’d also tell the party thrower that she should have picked a better date. Maybe she just got sucked into her own planning and didn’t think about it?

Post # 15
9217 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Yeah that’s total BS.  Hopefully your friends will skip the party and stay for your whole reception – I know that’s what I’d do!

Post # 16
10565 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Maybe there was a reason she picked that date like her or her FI’s family being in town?  She may actually be disappointed she had to do it on the same day.

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