rant….tired of waiting already

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
4528 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Been there! As hard as it is, it will be worth waiting for. Try to enjoy this time of excitement and anticipation.

Post # 3
45 posts

WarrenWE:  I went through the exact same thing. Even down to the excuses my FI always fed me. about a month ago I was fed up. I was so upset that I even considered staying with my bestie for the weekend. it was about two months before the actual proposal when he called my BFF and said “I have the ring, please don’t let her break up with me!” Obviously I didn’t know this until after. But he has a plan, let him do it when everything comes together for him. My FI spent 6 months planning our proposal. Try to be patient girl, it will happen…. Xoxo

Post # 4
798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

WarrenWE:  I ended up waiting a year past the ring conversation/looking at rings. I totally get the space you’re in! 

Believe me though, not interfering is the best thing you can do. 

You want him to want to do it. You want him to be excited! You don’t want him to do it because he feels rushed or like you are pressuring him. That’s not a very good place to start your engagement journey together. 

As hard as it is… BE PATIENT. Get distracted. The time will come, you know it’s coming. 

Post # 5
212 posts
Helper bee

if he really is ready then that might be helpful, but if he isn’t 100% ready like TODAY then you’re just going to get your feelings hurt

Post # 6
3540 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

WarrenWE:  I’m right there with you!!!  I’m officially at the 6-month waiting mark, and I’m dying.  Last weekend, I broke down and I said I don’t want to wait another month… that I don’t see the point.  He replied, “I agree.”  It’s a week later, no end in sight, and I’ve been mad since Thursday night.  I was mad enough yesterday thay I started thinking about what I’ll do if he doesn’t propose at the end of the 1-month mark.  

I think it’s just a tough weekend for all of us 🙁  We somehow need to suck it up for now…

Post # 7
30 posts


My advice is to chill out!! You’re obviously planning on spending the rest of your life with your SO. Does it really matter if he proposes in 3 days, 3 months or 3 years? I’ve been ‘waiting’ for nearly 6 years and although we’ve discussed it, I’d much prefer my SO to propose when he wants to as opposed to him feeling like he has too. You’ve said he’s stressed and it sounds like he’s working hard for a better life for the both of you, isn’t that more important at the moment? He’ll propose when he’s ready, relax!! Xx

Post # 8
30 posts

P.S you also don’t want to ruin the surprise!! My SO is the type of man whereby the more people tell him to do something, the more it makes him not want to do it. Xx

Post # 9
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was definitely in your position, too. My husband and I started looking at and discuss specific rings in August and he didn’t propose until November. However, I knew by the end of September that he had ordered a custom ring and he told me it takes about 12 weeks to come in. It gave me a lot of peace of mind to know it was definitely going to happy, and it turned out that he actually lied. The custom jeweller had quoted him 6-8 weeks, and it came in at exactly 6. He proposed that day and I was definitely not expecting it. 

Anyway, short version is that maybe you should order it together, but let him be in charge of corresponding with the jeweller so there’s still an element of surprise?

Post # 10
642 posts
Busy bee

been there, still doing that! lol. he might just want to have control over the situation and wants to propose as a suprise, and talking about it and getting involved with the ring selection and shopping ruins that for him. that’s what my boyfriend told me – and asked me to stop talking about ring shopping because he wants me out of the plan. instead of focusing on the ring, focus on the fact that you want to spend your life with him. 

also, if he’s anything like a lot of other guys, including mine, work stress becomes home stress. you don’t want to add ring stress to the equation. i learned this the hard way, and know its annoying to wait, but it’s like anything else in life, things happen when you least expect them.

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