(Closed) Rant – worried it won't seem special

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1651 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@WestCoast:  Talk to him about him constantly bringing out the ring if it bothers you that much. I’m sure that whatever he plans will be special, but if you want to drop a hint or two go ahead; just don’t be disappointed if he doesn’t listen (or realize that you’re dropping hints).

Post # 4
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3470 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

congrats on your almost engagement! maybe your SO needs to join the shut-it-up pact? lol in all seriousness tho I agree with LoggerHead91207 tell him to stop showing you the ring all the time and tell him you expect a formal proposal. Every bee has a different proposal story and so far I haven’t seen many that say they wish it was different. And maybe just ask to be less involved in the proposal process so that you feel more surprised

 

Post # 5
Member
482 posts
Helper bee

i guess im a little biased because i prefer the traditional route, over knowing the ring is in the house situation. but i guess i dont understand why not get engaged now? you know youre getting married in november.

 

you agree that you practically are engaged, you already have seen the ring plenty, youve been together over 6 years, its been in your hand. at this point is a special proposal really a requirement?

 

if your guy isnt the type to do something grand or uber romantic i wouldve just agreed youre already engaged, and have him put the ring on your finger. regardless of how special a proposal could be, the end result is youre marrying the man you love..

 

Post # 6
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9230 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I agree with some PPs – tell him to hide away the ring, stop talking about it, and SURPRISE you with something sentimental!  Trust me, even when you’ve been together forever and know engagement is on the horizon, a formal proposal is just one of those memories that you’ll treasure forever.

Post # 7
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7315 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@WestCoast:  I’m totally baffled. I don’t understand this scenario at all. If you both wanted to “be engaged” and had rings and everything, what would stop you from BEING engaged a year ago? And same questin for now. You say you could just decide to be engaged, but then something won’t be special…. What won’t be special? As far as I know, “engaged” means you’ve both decided you want to be married and have started planning and working towards that. Sounds like you fit the bill, so how/why are you not engaged? I’m so confused.

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