- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
My FI and I still live at home with our parents. We don’t live together yet. I’m in school full time with 16 credits and too much homework to allow me personally to get a job (I tried it- I got so stressed and so sick both my doctor and my therapist told me I’m not allowed to work while in school with this huge of a workload). My FI just finished school in January and has been looking for a new job to no avail.
Our home lives are very stressful. His parents are a total pain for him to live with. We can’t cook over there, his dad is a jerk, his stepmom isn’t much better, they’re very rude and self-centered. They have an awful dog that’s basically feral because THEY DON’T TAKE CARE OF IT.
My parents aren’t near as jerks as his, but my mom’s a hoarder and our house is filled with clutter and junk. I can hardly walk around without bumping into something. My mom also spoils the crap out of my son. We need to be our own little family unit and just be out.
We are both desperate to move out.
But apparently one of us is more desperate than the other.
As it stands right now, we cannot afford the typical apartment around here ($700+) but I was looking into mobile homes, and their mortgage prices were around $250 a month. This is definitely in our price range for right now so I got really excited! I found a very nice looking one and was so excited to show my FI.
And he shot it down before even looking at it.
He totally judges mobile homes, says they’re rife with drug use, trash, etc. and I’m completely offended. Afterall, I’ve known plenty of people who lived in parks who were perfectly fine and decent people. And I myself was just considering a mobile home. Does that make ME and all my family trash? I think not.
So right now I’m mad as hell at him. I told him I’m just trying to find a way for us to be together. I’ve done more than anything he’s done, which is basically send out resumes but never follow up. I’M also the one who found all those job ads FOR him to apply at, he hasn’t shown any interest in looking up apartments, he’s not looking for job ads himself.
It’s pissing me off that he’s not doing anything except continue on with his current job and whining about it every day, whining about his home life every day ALL day, yet when I present a viable situation he shoots it out of the sky and shuts me down.
I understand a mobile home isn’t the most ideal living situation, but it doesn’t have to be shameful or undignified unless you make it that way. I’m so angry.
I told him I’m going to see it anyway and I’m thinking of telling him that if I like it, I may just buy it myself and see how he likes it.
*Deep, cleansing breath*
I’m sorry this post is so incoherent, but I really needed to get it out before I exploded. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
ETA: it strikes me maybe this is less a home issue, so if this should be moved to relationships instead, feel free. I’m honestly not sure. I think it’s home because I want a mobile home dangit. But it could also be relationship because I’m ranting about FI.