- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
So if you have read my earlier posts regarding my roommate, you may be familiar with the issues I’ve had with her regarding how often BF can spend the night.
Anyway, we have really cut back on how often he spends the night and I’m trying not to resent my roommate for it. Because it is her apartment too so I know that she has a right to say something.
But part of me just feels angry. BF and I’s time together is being pretty limited because we’re trying to keep my roommate happy. BF lives about an hour away with his parents so it’s not feasible for me to go spend the night at his place. Plus I have work early in the morning and dealing with rush hour commute from his parents’ place is just awful. Plus I can only spend the night at his place when his parents are out of town and they rarely go out of town.
And he works nights at a grocery store so most of the time, I only see him when he gets off work which is usually around midnight. And that’s only if he spends the night. If he doesn’t spend the night, obviously we don’t see each other during the week. And on weekends, if we’re lucky and he doesn’t have to work ALL weekend, he’ll spend the night on Friday night and we’ll get up early on Saturday so that we can spend some time together before he goes to work.
I know there are bees out there that don’t get to see their SOs very much at all and their situations are much worse than mine. I know that. But I can’t help the way I feel.
It just sucks because BF and I have gone from spending a lot of time together to now spending very little time together, just so my roommate doesn’t get upset. And BF is not happy about it either. The other day he said to me, “I hate having my time dictated by a teenage girl.” (Roommate is 19).
I said I did too. Then I started talking to BF about how I was having selfish thoughts. Thoughts like the fact that my roommate is 19, never been in a serious relationship or in love. Every now and then, she’ll bring guys home for a one night stand or booty call that she knows but I don’t know. Why is that okay? Why is it okay for her to occasionally bring guys home for a one-night thing but it’s not okay for my BF to spend the night more than 2 nights a week? And btw, she is friends with my BF. Sort of. When the three of us hang out, we get along great. She has no issue with him personally. She just doesn’t like him staying over very much.
I told BF that I felt like if she was in a serious relationship like ours, she would be a lot more understanding.
I’m just tired of it. I feel like I’m in high school and my parents are telling me how often I can have my BF over. It’s annoying.
Ah well. I just have to make it until January. My lease ends then and BF and I are moving in together. I CANNOT WAIT!