- 4 years ago
Y’all, I just have to rant for a minute.
I love my maid of honor. Love her to death. We’ve been friends since freshman year of college (9 years ago). She had a massive 350+ person wedding, and her family paid for the entire thing, not to mention that she has a bazillion aunts and a mom who are all part Martha Stewart. Her family was very supportive, she had 6 or 7 bridal showers, two bachelorette parties, and didn’t have any debt after the wedding.
She has been giving me grief throughout the entire process for paying for stuff, not having any bridal showers, etc. It makes me feel like crap because I come from a complicated family, to say the least, and none of them have offered to throw me a shower or ANYTHING. We are receiving minimal help from our families and will have around 10k of debt after it’s all said and done. She keeps saying things like, “I’m so glad I didn’t have to deal with that. That’s just so awful for you.” But, it’s not in a helpful way, it’s condescending! Part of me is jealous, too, because I wish I had ONE bridal shower. She kind of attempted to throw one for me, but between her being apathetic about it and me commuting across the country for planning, it’s not happened.
We wanted a small affair, but my dad offered to pay for the reception, and being from a hispanic family, they see it as a rite of passage to throw a grand party for their daughters. That, and my guy’s family is fairly huge. (I won’t even get STARTED on his mother and her trying to control EVERYTHING.)
Long story short: How many bridal showers do brides normally get? How large is a bachelorette party? Are there any standards? Am I the only one with a non-supportive family? How did you handle having a non-supportive family that demanded you have a larger wedding than you ever cared to have? Does anyone else have a nightmareish mother in law? Did it get better or worse after you got married?