Rawr…guest count going up.

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Guest count...
    is/was WAY OVER the original count. : (8 votes)
    30 %
    is/was WAY LOWER than the original count. : (8 votes)
    30 %
    is/was ON PAR. : (11 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Actually, I think the more appropriate thing to do is to leave the “No Plus Ones” out and directly call them.  And if they bought their tickets?  Well, if we have some cancelations, they can come, but since the invitation was only addressed for you, we don’t have room for your guest.  I mean, it’s their own damn fault for assuming it’s OK…

    Post # 4
    Member
    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That’s annoying and stressful!  Good luck!!! 

    Post # 5
    Member
    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I know what you mean. My fiance and I were planning a wedding of about 200 ppl and somehow its now close to 400. Talk about stressful!!  

    Post # 6
    Member
    14 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I know what you mean. My fiance and I were planning a wedding of about 200 ppl and somehow its now close to 400. Talk about stressful!!  

    Post # 7
    Member
    918 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I see how this is a pain in the butt for you, especially financially, but I have a firm opinion on +1s. Where are you drawing the line? Married/engaged/cohabitating couples only? In this day and age, the lines get blurred and it’s really not the bride’s and groom’s job to decide how serious another person’s relationship is. In other words, if X is able to bring her SO then why can’t I?

    Especially if tickets were already bought, then it’s in really poor form to say no about it. You’ll end up antagonizing people you want at your wedding. Whenever you are hosting other people, it is your job to make sure they have a good time too. Yeah, they shouldn’t have gone ahead and purchased tickets without consulting with you, but they did and that’s done.

    My advice would be to pay the extra grand and go over 80. You were already pushing it by having a guest list of 79. If you don’t want to pay money to celebrate your nuptials, then elope. If you don’t want to deal with people-pleasing, then elope. My husband and I eloped to avoid the financial and guest-related headaches that come along with wedding-planning.

    I’m really not trying to sound terse about it, and I do understand that this is putting you in a difficult spot. I just hope you’re able to find a way to make it work out so that everyone’s happy!

    Post # 8
    Member
    918 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Your venue seems to have an asinine policy about it. What’s the difference between, say, 79 and 82? Do you think you can haggle with them about it at all? It seems so silly that they want to charge a grand for a few extra people showing up…

     

     

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