Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding in Puerto Rico. We will have about 60 guests. The wedding party (inclu. immediately family) is about 25 people if we add in their significant others. Can we rehearse the ceremony with only the 25 people, take those people to a casual dinner at an off the resort restaurant (inexpensive but very good and authentic PR food) only? We CANNOT afford to take all 60 to rehearsal dinner. Is it necessary to do something for all 60 guests (almost all family and close close friends)? What if we took the 25 to dinner, but asked the rest to join us for a dessert reception or cocktail hour after dinner? How do we let the guests know about who is inclucded in dinner vs. reception without hurt feelings if possible?
Post # 3
I think having only the 25 present for your rehearsal dinner and then a “Welcome party” afterwards with everyone is a great idea! You could offer light refreshments and dessert. I might send out real invitations for the welcome party and then let it spread through word of mouth about your RD plans. If they’re all immediate family, everyone should be able to find out easily enough and that way the guests who aren’t attending the RD will also get a “thank you” for attending the wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I love the idea of opening things up to everyone later in the evening — just make sure if your RD is the night before the wedding that you factor in enough time to try for a good night’s sleep!
Post # 5
you should do what u can afford… you should just take your immed fam and ppl in the bridal party to the rehearsal dinner period
Post # 6
You should do what is possible within your budget. Do the RD for 25 and send them invitations to the RD. Since it is a destination wedding, it would be nice if you did something for the remainder of your guests – I think opening up the evening to your other guests for cocktails or dessert is perfect! I’d send them a small invite saying “we’d love to toast to your arrival! Meet us for drinks at X time.” You get the best of all worlds that way – staying within your budget, having an intimate RD and making a nice, thoughtful gesture to your guests. Good luck with your plans!