Post # 1
i got some good ideas from my previous post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/rehearsal-dinner-invites-7
however since then i have found out my FPIL are having financial difficulties in our present economy thus they won’t be able to afford a ‘mini-wedding’ seeing as though the entire guest list would be at the RD.
FMIL & I thought of just having a backyard BBQ, which is prefectly fine with me but she would want to get a tent but everyone knows that cost $$$$$$. If there was inclement weather we could always move it inside their house but it would be extremely cramped! Also, we can’t think of any friends who already have a tent to borrow one from.
do you think we can just have a RD for B&G/weddingparty/parents&immediate family only. then send large welcome baskets to OOTs? if not, what else should we do?? we’re stuck & can’t think of anything else to do. please help! TIA.
Post # 3
So you can’t invite all of your OOT guests to your rehearsal dinner, right? I am not sure on etiquette but if you can’t, then you can’t.
If you really want to do something? Could you have your RD, and then maybe invite guest to meet you somewhere for drinks after? Just something casual?
Post # 4
My OOT guests will equall at least 60% of my wedding guests. There is no way we can handle that! Guest baskets are fine! Try to swing by the hotel where most guests are staying sometime during the day the day before and say hi. I promise that will be plenty!
Post # 5
I’d love to meet them before or after the ‘formal’ RD for drinks I would just feel as though they would think we’re being cheap since they would have to pay for that their own drinks (even if we’ll be paying for their next meal).
Like I said before, ~99% of our guest list is OOT: CA, FL, NY, NJ, MA, VT, Irleand. Not many states but a long distance to travel.
Thank you 🙂