- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Gosh this is so hard to word. Please bare with me guys.
Ladies, I know waiting is hard. I know it makes us do and say crazy things to our otherwise amazing SOs. But I want to tell you it does get better.
I think a conscious shift in our approach to “waiting” needs to happen so we can continue to enjoy our relationships.
I hereby re-dub “the waiting period” to “re-courtship”.
Be happy ladies! Your SO doesn’t want to propose a miserable grump. Be happy and enjoy the time you have together. Make a bigger effort to go on dates or get in the date mood. I know lazing around at home seems fine but those walls can close in real quick. Get out of the house!
Been together a longtime? That finger been itching? Shake it off and look into the face of your SO. Do you love this person? Do they love you? Is this certain? Have you spoken on the future and you guys are on the same page? If all answers are ‘Yes’ then RELAX! It’ll happen! Lots of people believe getting married or having a wedding will fix you or your relationship or your credit score but whatever problems that are in your relationship won’t go away when you walk down the isle. So don’t use a proposal or wedding or marriage to glue your relationship back together if you are already having problems. Trust me, if you are having problems in your relationship, they won’t fly away once the ring is on your finger.
But mostly, try to be happy. Smile at your man. I have completely changed my attitude towards waiting. And men are more perceptive then we give them credit for. If they see you happy in your relationship…the love in your relationship…then he will want to keep you happy. If you have had a mature convo with your man then they will know how you feel about the importance of engagement and the symbolic meaning of the ring. What it represents. The things women already know but men need a little help with.
I also have been trying to re-engage my man in “The Hunt”. Men are hunters. If they feel they have already caught you then there isn’t INCENTIVE to put a ring on your finger (other then our nagging, but what’s the fun in that). If you re-engage him in “The Hunt” then for sure he will be looking for another way in which he can “keep” you.
Do Mr. Bee’s Plan. FOLLOW IT! I have worked on it a lot this month (with a few minor set backs here and there…super-minor…and it has worked, I believe. We smile at each other all the time now. If I start thinking about rings or wedding I try to shift my thoughts to him. Wearing HIS ring. Him wearing MY ring. US walking down the isle. These thoughts make me smile and blush and my SO sees that.
Does any of this make sense?