Post # 1
Ok, I don’t know if this is more of a vent or a question, but bear with me!
My Mom offered to address our invitations herself, to help save us the money then hiring someone, and I have horrible writing, so we knew that was out of the question. I gave them to her on a Friday, and she let me know she was done address them on Sunday….all 75 of them. I didn’t think anything of it and was all kinds of excited to see them all addressed and looking fabulous! When we went and picked them up from her, I was completed crushed. I gave her a print out of how I wanted each invitation to be addresses, outer and inner envelopes, so there would no confusion on anything. When I looked at them, part of the address would be cursive, part in all caps, some parts would be spelled out, some with abbreviations, and everything just written however. They looked like any old Christmas card she would send out. I wanted to cry. Some of them were off center, some were crocked, and all looked like she just rushed through them to get them done.
She offered to re-address some, when she saw that I wasn’t very thrilled, but we only have 9 extra envelopes as it is, and it just wasn’t worth it. I did have her readdress my FIL’s invite, because theirs looked the worst. So, I guess my question is do I just deal with it, and try to keep in mind that my family and friends aren’t going to be judging our wedding on the invitation writing, or do we start over again, and go out and buy all new envelopes and hire someone? I really had wanted the invitations to come across more formal.
Post # 3
I would say, in the end it’s just a detail and go with it. But you need to ask yourself if 3, 10 15,50 years from now will you look back and think it was silly, no big deal and who really would have cared, or will you say to yourself, “I’m so glad we spent xxx more on new envelopes and hired a writer so that we had really great looking mail?”
Post # 4
They won’t care what they look like. Don’t stress out. But now you know for future reference.
Post # 5
It’s really not a big deal and no one will remember how your invitations were addressed or how perfect they are. I totally understand wanting them to be perfect, but it’s a very minor detail and not worth the hassle to redo them.
Your invitations will set the tone (the inside parts) more than how they are addressed.
Post # 6
Yeah, I guess so, and I know its just something that everyone is going to open and then throw away, I mean, come on, who really keeps the envelopes, but still. I guess I wanted the first thing people associated with our wedding was something….nicer.
Post # 7
Awe that sucks (I understand your frustration) but no one will notice or care how the outer envelope is addressed!
Post # 8
I 100% understand how you feel. FMIL did the same for my STDs. She offered and I accepted because she has BEAUTIFUL cursive. Well, I was at one of my friends’ house when she received hers, and when I saw it, I wanted to cry. It looked like she had her 14 year old son write them out. BUT, I just said oh well, I learned my lesson.
NOW, I don’t ever even think about it, I have MUCH more important things on my mind, and NOBODY even cared. We are the only ones that pay attention to those little details.
C’est la vie. All we can do is move on.
Post # 9
my thoughts are its the envelope only so dont worry too much about it. yes you have a huge perfect picture in your head but its just the address and once the envelope is opened chances are the person will throw it out and keep the invite only
i would let it go – there are more important things to worry about
Post # 10
The envelope is going to be in the trash 5 minutes after it is recieved. I would use the 9 extra envelopes for extra special guests, or anyone who has a truely terrible envelope. But in the end, no one will notice/care/remember. Sorry that your momw as so careless with something so important to you. That is really frustrating.
Post # 11
Thanks everyone. I know it was silly to be so upset about somehting so small in the major scheme of all this planning, but it really did bother me. I went ahead and stuffed all the envelopes last night, and they are going out, AS IS, tomorrow.
Post # 13
Seirously, before I was bride I never noticed details like that. Most guests won’t even bat an eye