Post # 1
So we were married last year, end of July. Due to some traumatic familial issues, we ended up essentially running away and eloping. In doing so, I left the gown that I had gotten for our wedding behind. We were married in his parents living room, and I was wearing one of his sister’s dresses, that didn’t fit and literally looks like a bath towel in the photos. These photos were taken by family and are grainy with horrible lighting, and comments are made like “every time I see this picture I look worse” by friends. The fact that I didn’t get to wear the gown and that our wedding was so makeshift and sudden breaks my heart, but I wouldn’t trade my DH for anything in the world. The things we do for love!
It so happens, that by a turn of events I have the beautiful gown that was meant for my wedding back in my possession. Would it be weird to do a shoot with us wearing what we wanted to that day? I know it wouldn’t be the same. I know it would be a little fake. But those photos I have can’t be shown to our children someday. I want to be as well dressed as my husband in our photos… He was wearing his dress blues and looked absolutely stunning! I want beautiful photos to reflect our beautiful love. Half of me thinks it’s a great idea, half of me thinks it’s stupid. This whole thing has been a real source of depression for me, and I feel like doing that would make it a bit better to bear.
Thoughts? Be gentle.
Post # 3
I would say go for it. I’m sorry you had such a makeshift wedding. If you and your husband are both happy with the idea I think it’s a great way to erase the bad memories from your mind!
Post # 4
I see nothing wrong with this at all. If it makes you happy, do it! You can display them in your home, show them off to your kids… Then when your kids get to that “friend” stage and get stressed planning their own wedding you can show them the original photos and say “THIS was my wedding! Don’t stress too much! All that matters is love.”
Post # 5
MrsSnapdragon: To me, just taking photos seems a little silly, but why not make it a vow renewal? Hire an officiant and photographer, say your vows, and pose a bit. It seems to me like that would make the pictures a lot more meaningful 🙂
Post # 6
MrsSnapdragon: Why not do a vowel renewal for your anniversary? Maybe just the 2 of you with an officiant and photographer. That way you can have some photographs taken and have a meaningful expression of your love at the same time.
Post # 7
MrsSnapdragon: As other posters have stated, do a vow renewal. I think that would allow those original wedding memories to be replaced with the new ones – and then you have beautiful photos to go along with it. Definitely not a stupid idea at all!
Post # 8
MrsSnapdragon: I agree with PPs about having a vow renewal. You’ll never have real wedding pictures (other than the ones you’re displeased with) but it’ll give you a reason to wear your dress.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
i was wondering about taking pictures after the wedding too- for similar reasons! Especially since DH & I don’t have many pictures together & I really wanted to make an album or something. We just went to the court house with our families and my mom took a few pics but she lost her camera. Then again part of me thinks it’s silly since were married so the pictures wouldn’t be wedding pics but just anniversary pics. We’re thinking of having a small reception/ renewal on an anniversary and doing it then or having a small church wedding Or maybe even just taking pics just cause! Haven’t decided yet.
Post # 10
I agree, a vow renewal would be great but might seem a little atabge after such a short time. What about a trash the dress kinda thing, I mean you don’t literally trash your dress but you could have the freedom of getting some pretty cool shots of you dragging it down the street I’m some urban backdrop, standing on the beach Maybe in the water, laying on your husbands lap in the grass/field.
Ive always wanted to bust out my dress and have some photos taken on the snow but sadly it hasn’t snowed here since I got married and now it’s been two years and I would feel weird putting it on but honestly if I had no pics of me in my dress or pics of my at my wedding that I liked…I would totally do it.
Post # 11
Do it! Sounds like a great idea. I would not worry about the vow renewal unless that idea is really meaningful to you.
Post # 12
Do what makes you happy. If you want photos of you and your husband in your wedding finery, hire a photog. It’s likely to be lots less expensive than engaging him for a full wedding day.
But I’m biased. We married in late April and had wedding pictures made in May.
Post # 14
I think it’s a great idea. You deserve to have pictures you love. Just be sure to post some here!
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Of course you should do it!